worried about depressed daughter

stocktradermom
Tue, 24 Oct 2006 10:57:35 +0000

Hi, Really Worried – My personal situation is a little different, but I thought I’d put my two cents in. I think you are wise in ruling out other things and not just the knee-jerk reaction of changing schools. I went through a messy divorce about 5 years ago (xh had mid-life crisis). My first reaction was MOVE!! What would all my friends and acquaintances think? I was a princess, had the perfect kids, perfect life, etc. Luckily, the counselor I went to told me that the flight instinct is very strong when you are going through life-changing experiences. She told me that though my environment might change, I would STILL have my problems do deal with (in my case, fear of the unknown – I had been married for 24 years).
To make a long story short, I didn’t move, my kids are doing fine, and I learned that change is sometimes a good thing in the end. No, I’m not a princess anymore, but I do like my life a lot better and I can’t even imagine turning back.
Also, as far as the gossipy people are concerned, whatever your decision may be, they’ll move on to their next topic of conversation. I once heard a saying that other people are thinking about you about as much as you think about them – in other words, hardly at all!
All the best!!