Worst Paying College Degrees

bigtrees
Wed, 12 May 2010 14:37:22 +0000

My boyfriend desperately wanted to major in psychology, but his mom convinced him to major in the pre-med track of clinical lab science instead-- what she majored in in college-- because she felt psychology was not a legitimate thing to study, even though he intended to become a psychologist. Now as a senior he is so incredibly MISERABLE that he is changing his major and praying that his unhappiness and his lack of ability for the major his mother picked for him hasn’t affected his grades too much to still get into grad school. As it turns out, pre-med was too taxing on math/science skills he didn’t have-- which he knew, but his mother refused to accept. While you do want to consider earning potential, especially if you’re paying for the degree or allowing a significant amount of debt, there is a line not to cross here. My boyfriend is just torn in half now because he’s put so much work into suffering through CLS and now it’s his last chance to stand up to his mom and change and he doesn’t know what to do, and she has him convinced all his hopes and dreams are just completely worthless and he’ll be worthless if he pursues them. It’s as if his mother is forgetting that there is a person involved in this, not just some soulless entity she is putting through school to reflect well on her. I’m sure she doesn’t mean it but she doesn’t seem to realize how much her words are deflating him.



All I can say is there is something not healthy going on here, and it’s not just the mom. It’s one thing to let a parent to talk you into something you’re not interested in, it’s competely another thing to harbor ill feelings about it through all of college until the senior year.

Your boyfriend is an adult and is allowed make his own decisions without mom’s approval. He should start exterting that power and do what he wants regardless of whether mamma approves or not.