Young Marriage

Parentof2014grad
Sun, 18 Jul 2021 19:34:38 +0000

There really are no rules for these things.

I think Publisher’s list of questions are a good starting place.

My kid met spouse in high school, dated long distance through college. One graduated early and took a job requiring long distance to continue. This created some tension. The other graduated and started grad school, which would have required a second year of long distance or a job change but for the pandemic and remote work saving the day, lol. They got married. The other stops work and starts grad school soon. The second grad school choice was certainly constrained by the location of the first. This was known but reality is, well, real. Letting go of the dream of a top grad school for the second person was at least a little bit hard.

Since both these young adults are planning on grad school, these kinds of things need to be discussed. When you’re married, there will always be that other person to consider and sometimes that involves sacrifices. It’s good to think that through ahead of time.