Young Marriage

twoinanddone
Tue, 20 Jul 2021 03:20:16 +0000

Many of my sorority sisters got married right out of college, so 22-24 years old. Most of those marriages are still going strong at 40+ years. One was a military marriage with groom an AFA grad so he had to put in his 5-7 years. Wife got her graduate degree (teaching) by doing it at different bases, different assignments. Others were pretty poor. One thing I think most of them had in common was waiting several years to have kids.

Many of my high school friends waited till their late 20’s (so 8-10 years) and most of them are doing fine too.

I have to laugh at the pre-canan classes (I do believe in them but they aren’t perfect). My sister and BIL took it and had to answer a set of 150 questions. As my sister said, HE got two wrong, but they agreed on almost everything else or at least knew how the other felt about the topic (kids, finances, travel, adventure). They had a good marriage for about 7 years, even remodeled a house, bought another house, had pets, she typed his thesis, but just wanted different things after that amount of time.They were in their late 20’s, had known each other for years (she actually attended his first wedding as a guest of the bride)

No perfect answers. My own kids are in long term relationships. One is ‘settled’, living together, two dogs, want to buy a house together (if the crazy market would settle down). ALL their friends are getting married, but they want to wait. I think that’s a good idea as my daughter is only 24. He has an MBA, she just passed her professional engineer test so probably no more schooling for either.

Other daughter WANTS to be engaged but her boyfriend is in the army and will either stay in MO or go to KY for the next year. She’s starting grad school (in neither of those states). I really want them to wait. I think he’ll get tired of her being in grad school, especially since many of his army friends are married and have their partners there day in and day out. She’s spending the month with him and I think that’s great and showing her what her life as an army wife would be like - so far going to Walmart to buy food and then making him dinner.