Younger sibling overshadowed needing ADVICE

blue147
Tue, 09 Nov 2004 21:14:52 +0000

Hi there! I have a friend, “S2”(16 yrs) who is overshashadowed by his older brother “S1”(18). My friend is really great. His older brother who’s passion is music ( especially music perfomance on the clarinet) is thriving as a freshmen in college. S2 has been constantly trying to live up to S2’s achievements but seems like he’ll never accomplish or even come close to it. I try to tell him that it’s not important to live up to his brother, just be himself and do what makes him happy. He is constantly put down by the achievements of this “kid” prodigy in band. Same year and same age. S2 thinks that the band director will never give him a chance to shine and be in the spot light, always given it to the prodigy.

I really feel bad for my friend. Any advice would help.