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Second Guessing

crixxcrixx Registered User Posts: 158 Junior Member
edited June 2008 in Transfer Students
Now that most of the notifications are in, is everyone still set on transferring? I was accepted to my top choice but am now second guessing myself if it's the right thing to do. I'd be leaving all my clubs (some of which I have leadership positions) my roommate and all the friends I made. I wondering if it's worth it to give it all up for a gamble that things will turn out better?
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Replies to: Second Guessing

  • BK22889BK22889 Registered User Posts: 418 Member
    yeah, i know how you feel, but i'm still leaning towards going
  • entomomentomom Registered User Posts: 23,662 Senior Member
    My D has the same regrets. She purposefully didn't take on club responsibilities for next year since she knew she might be leaving, but she will miss their activities none the less. And she will particularly miss the good friends that she made last year. However, she can't envision returning to her school for 3 more years and she knows she will meet new friends and stay in touch with the old ones.
  • specifyspecify Registered User Posts: 726 Member
    Maybe you should revisit the reason why you applied for a transfer?
  • LilyMoonLilyMoon Registered User Posts: 1,832 Senior Member
    Transferring can be scary once the reality sets in. My S was all set to transfer and then the new school didn't give him housing so he decided to wait another semster and go back to his old school with the thought of deferring his transfer application. I think he just really wants to be sure he is making the right decision. He plans to transfer in the Spring (we think) LOL.
  • Jahn1012Jahn1012 Registered User Posts: 56 Junior Member
    For those of us more detached from our current colleges (ie: not living on campus), it's a bit different. I certainly made friends, but my closest friends are still those with whom I attended HS. We're all still in contact, hang out over vacation, etc.

    I'll echo what a poster above said: remember why you're leaving. Whenever I start having second thoughts, I try to recall the feelings that prompted me to apply to transfer. Placing myself back in that state of mind reaffirms my actions and ultimate decision. No matter the challenges that lie ahead, the path on which I now embark is brighter and filled with greater opportunity. I will, at the very least, know that I made an effort to improve myself, regardless of whether or not I succeed.
  • TakucharaelTakucharael Registered User Posts: 80 Junior Member
    Jahn. That was beautiful. Haha thank you.
  • crixxcrixx Registered User Posts: 158 Junior Member
    Well said.

    I'm trying to figure out if my feelings of happiness towards the end of second semester were due to my finally liking the school or just the thought of summer being so close. Much has changed since I applied in January, an entire semester worth of experience.
  • BourneBourne Registered User Posts: 982 Member
    Easy for me. I hate this city. Best of luck to you.
  • crixxcrixx Registered User Posts: 158 Junior Member
    So no one else is a bit scared of the change? It'd almost be nice to return to a place I already know. But I guess it's sort of like taking the polar plunge for the first time- you don't know what will happen, but you dive in anyway and hope for the best.
  • BourneBourne Registered User Posts: 982 Member
    I'm a bit scared of the workload? Well I know I'll be able to compete in class, I just don't know if I'll have enough time to do all the ec's I want to do so I can get into a top law school or maybe even a top British University. I wonder if I went to a top ranked LAC if it would be easier to get a higher GPA there while participating in activities...
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