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Is something wrong with me for not wanting to go to Michigan?

dunnowheretogodunnowheretogo 84 replies13 postsRegistered User Junior Member
Michigan was one of my top schools when I was applying for college. I ended up getting into Michigan early action and went on a campus day in January. I had a bad gut feeling the entire time, the very first second I even got to the hotel, and really just hated the entire tour. When we got home, my parents were super excited and were basically like “why would you not want to go there it’s amazing!” Now, I am in a fortunate position and my parents will pay for my undergraduate education anywhere I go. However, I was admitted to other great schools and it seems like my family just doesn’t want me to go anywhere but Michigan. I keep hyping it up in my mind because I’ve worked incredibly hard to go to a top school, but then I remember how much I disliked it when i visited. I still haven’t heard back from Georgetown or USC (my top 2 schools) but if I don’t get into those, do I suck it up and try Michigan out for a year? Or would that be a giant mistake?
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  • TomSrOfBostonTomSrOfBoston 14651 replies979 postsRegistered User Senior Member
    edited March 2
    What exactly did you not like about Michigan? Sounds like you were looking for reasons not to go to there. Two weeks ago you were deciding between BC and Tulane. Now you have two new top schools: USC and Georgetown.

    What are you looking for in a college? Have you thought about that?
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  • dunnowheretogodunnowheretogo 84 replies13 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    @TomSrOfBoston I went to my campus day super excited because I thought I’d get there and know that it was the place for me. I just felt not excited about anything they had to say.
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  • J123D123J123D123 271 replies6 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    What other schools have you been accepted to already that you would prefer to go to over U of M?
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  • TomSrOfBostonTomSrOfBoston 14651 replies979 postsRegistered User Senior Member
    Well, what would excite you?
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  • aunt beaaunt bea 9801 replies62 postsRegistered User Senior Member
    My daughter felt like you did when she looked at Yale. She didn't go there.
    Maybe it was the time at which you went? Maybe there were other factors? It is a good school.
    Wait for all of your admissions before you decide.
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  • dunnowheretogodunnowheretogo 84 replies13 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    @J123D123 I’ve been accepted to Boston College and Tulane
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  • dunnowheretogodunnowheretogo 84 replies13 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    @TomSrOfBoston I guess it just seemed super big and cold
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  • dunnowheretogodunnowheretogo 84 replies13 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    @aunt bea where did your daughter end up going?
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  • aunt beaaunt bea 9801 replies62 postsRegistered User Senior Member
    Where are you from?
    Michigan is cold for a better part of the year. The geography tends to be that way and shouldn't have been unexpected.
    If it is too big a school for you, then you need to deal with those issues because USC is also big and sports are huge on these campuses.
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  • TomSrOfBostonTomSrOfBoston 14651 replies979 postsRegistered User Senior Member
    Going to any college with the intention of transferring would be a mistake.
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  • J123D123J123D123 271 replies6 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    edited March 2
    Lol

    My daughter has been accepted to BC and loves it there having already visited three times. Yet she thinks she would rather go to U of M yet awaits an acceptance in the deferral abyss. We cannot just randomly visit U of M so I am very curious what specifically you didn’t like about your visit.

    The two schools are much different in size.

    Can you better put in words what you didn’t like?
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  • scholarmescholarme 2674 replies79 postsRegistered User Senior Member
    Try to honestly figure out what set off the "don't like it" reaction. It might help you explain it to your parents.
    If there is something you really don't like about it, it's better to face it now and either address it or accept it. Don't just squish the feeling then have it negatively affect your college career later.
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  • dunnowheretogodunnowheretogo 84 replies13 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    @aunt bea I’m from Chicago. I knew it would be cold, I honestly don’t know if I could list exact reasons for not liking my visits other than the fact that I wasn’t happy the entire time. I actually really like the sports aspect, I guess the location is my biggest hang up.
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  • dunnowheretogodunnowheretogo 84 replies13 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    @J123D123 In all honesty, I just found the campus ugly. The law quad is AMAZING don’t get me wrong. But every other building felt really industrial. It didn’t feel like a place I could call home. The resources they provide seemed awesome, and I liked a majority of the students that I met, but overall I just thought the campus was depressing. I’m not sure if I could be truly happy there. I’m sure there are plenty who would disagree with me, but I just felt uncomfortable and out of place walking around campus.
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  • Leigh22Leigh22 635 replies9 postsRegistered User Member
    I’m going to say that this is a stressful time and you’re facing a big decision. Have you visited other colleges that you feel better about? Is this maybe just a case of nerves about the entire experience?
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  • scholarmescholarme 2674 replies79 postsRegistered User Senior Member
    cold dark weather + grim buildings can be depressing, for sure
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  • dunnowheretogodunnowheretogo 84 replies13 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    @Leigh22 I agree that this could be a thing of nerves. But I have also visited a number of other schools such as Georgetown and Tulane and didn’t have this feeling.
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  • vpa2019vpa2019 516 replies10 postsRegistered User Member
    edited March 2
    My suggestion is to wait till you hear from all of your schools and then assess them and if possible visit. If your parents are willing to pay for your education they’d probably be happier paying for a place you are excited to attend. It sounds like you have wonderful choices so far. My D19 has a spreadsheet she uses to list pros and cons and it has helped her see common threads of likes and dislikes.
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  • LoveTheBardLoveTheBard 2103 replies20 postsRegistered User Senior Member
    Whether or not a school resonates with any given student depends on a number factors that are unique to that particular student and what they do or do not want in their college experience. "Fit" comes down a number of factors:

    1) Academic fit: Do they have the programs you seek? Are there possibilities for research in your area of interest?
    2) School size (preferences large vs. small school; average class size; faculty/student ratio
    3) location (geographic preferences in terms of urban vs. rural; climate),
    4) general culture (importance of sports, Greek life, arts, conservative vs. liberal)

    This is the kind of decision you need to make with both your head and your gut. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. While it's probably a perfect fit for lots of people, I personally doubt that I would like it there -- too cold, too big, too spread out, too lacking in warmth and charm.
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