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College Dating Help!!!

cdarnony53891cdarnony53891 Registered User Posts: 1 New Member
So my boyfriend goes to UNC (just started) and Im somewhat worried that he'll leave me for someone else that he'll meet up there even though he said it wouldn't happen. I mean I am about a thousand miles away and come lets be honest, no matter where you go theres always going to be a pretty girl. But honestly I need a guys opinion, even though he says that he loves me and wants to be with me, being a college guy now, how much truth is there truly behind what he says? And should I, if I get accepted, go to UNC next fall to be with him? Please guys help!!!
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Replies to: College Dating Help!!!

  • phonyreal98phonyreal98 Registered User Posts: 1,984 Senior Member
    I just got here...and there's definitely lots of pretty girls here. :)

    heh...not the kind of answer you were looking for i bet. and you should go to UNC if accepted. period.
  • juliusharkjuliushark Registered User Posts: 777 Member
    depends how big of a partyer he is.
  • scuba723scuba723 Registered User Posts: 152 Junior Member
    Going to UNC because you love the school will probably be one of the best decisions you will ever make in your life.

    Going to UNC specifically to be with your boyfriend will probably be one of the worst decisions you make.

    I'm totally going to side with phonyreal on this -- I've been at UNC for just a few days, but I am absolutely in awe at how many attractive females are walking around... and by the ratio, the odds are definitely in favor of guys seeking girls.

    If your relationship is meant to last, however, it will last. Worry and paranoia about whether or not he is cheating will only cause stress and create a factor of distrust that will smolder and fester until it ultimately causes a tremendous amount of damage.
  • gator2008gator2008 Registered User Posts: 362 Member
    I Totally agree with scuba as im in the same situation (diff school though) with my bf.............dont worry about wat hes doin or where hes at cause its a drag.

    my advice is to jus go about ur life...and look into UNC if it interest u not because hes there cause u may end up resenting him if things dont go to well
  • belevittbelevitt Registered User Posts: 2,005 Senior Member
    This will probably be painful to hear, but these kinda situations rarely work out. On the positive side, there are circumstances where this does work. My brother in law and sister in law went to different colleges for the first part of undergrad and judging by the fact that they are both inlaws, you can imagine how it worked out.
  • AtlmomAtlmom Registered User Posts: 806 Member
    In general, don't make such impt decisions based on a guy....that seldom works out....if you are a strong couple you can tolerate being in a different place and visiting each other while allowing each of you to experience "college" or High school.... you need to discover who YOU are and what YOU want and although you think he is the one....you still have a lot of growing to go... He might be the one and your adventures on your own will just let you know if he is the one for the mature you. The best case is you continue to date, go where YOu truly want to go for college....get jobs, work a while hopefully in the same city and then make those decisions.
    28 is a perfect age for considering marriage. It is SO impt for WOMEN to be independent, educated and able to support themselves for WOMEN are more likely to support families on their own. Your education is very critical to the rest of your life.
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