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Transfer out of a Women's College?

iamincollege23iamincollege23 2 replies1 threads New Member
edited January 19 in Women's Colleges
Hi all,
I am currently attending Bryn Mawr College and I am not enjoying my time there. Academically, I feel challenged and am loving the class selection but socially, I feel very underwhelmed which has made my experience feel a bit dreadful. I've always been a person who cares a lot about academics as well as having a social life that keeps me stimulated and growing as a person. That is to say, I like having a mix of people (both men and females). Going to a women's college was a kinda a last option for me so it's not such a surprise that I'm not enjoying it. But, I'd like some advice from people who have considered transferring or who have transferred out of a women's college to know if its truly worth it because academically, I love it.
edited January 19
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  • rosemaryandthymerosemaryandthyme 107 replies4 threads Junior Member
    What year are you? I did not transfer out of a women's college but I did transfer out of a school where I was unhappy socially. I enjoyed my new school much more, but I could tell that those around me had deeper bonds with each other that formed in freshman year.

    At my college I became friends with a woman who went to Bryn Mawr. I met her because she was taking a semester "study away" at my University. She enjoyed the social aspect of the larger/ coed school but was ready to return at the end of the semester.

    I'm not sure what the policies are for studying away and then transferring at the end of the semester. But it might be an option for you to get a breather by going somewhere else for a semester, and seeing where it goes from there.
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  • SpringbirdSpringbird 149 replies9 threads Junior Member
    You need to decide what works for you, but in the meantime...

    -Have you looked into joining clubs at Haverford?

    -Have you scheduled any classes at Haverford or even Swarthmore or Penn (I know it's harder to get to the latter two, but maybe that would open up your social circle)?

    -Have you looked into studying abroad? If you are currently a first year, it might be possible to go spring of sophomore year, or for all of junior year. It looks like Bryn Mawr will also entertain some domestic study away options like @rosemaryandthyme mentioned above, although there are caveats to be aware of: https://www.brynmawr.edu/deans/academic-opportunities/study-away-and-study-abroad.

    If you are a first year, maybe you should look into transferring options now and possibly apply. By the end of second semester, you might then be happy to have the option to transfer, or perhaps you'll have found your people at that point.

    Good luck!




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  • PublisherPublisher 9640 replies121 threads Senior Member
    edited January 20
    One of my biggest regrets is that I did not transfer out of my small (about 2200-2300 students) rural LAC after my freshman year. Life is too short.
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  • PublisherPublisher 9640 replies121 threads Senior Member
    edited January 21
    @iamincollege23 : If you are receiving substantial financial aid, then consider--as suggested above--studying abroad.

    Although a full pay student, I stayed at the rural LAC. I survived by studying abroad for 3 semesters (one per year) and graduating in 3 years rather than the traditional 4 years. I had enough friends & joined a frat which had great members, but I found the lack of breadth & depth of daily life to be suffocating. I enjoy diversity in all facets of life and did not find it at this particular upscale LAC. Also, I was uncomfortable with the lack of anonymity.

    You need to decide what is important to you and act accordingly.
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  • ArtsyKidDadArtsyKidDad 68 replies11 threads Junior Member
    edited January 21
    Springbird wrote: »
    -Have you looked into joining clubs at Haverford?
    -Have you scheduled any classes at Haverford or even Swarthmore or Penn (I know it's harder to get to the latter two, but maybe that would open up your social circle)?

    These would be my questions to @iamincollege23 as well. Bryn Mawr stresses their close ties with Haverford so much, including male students in Bryn Mawr classes and vice versa, clubs, activities, etc., they make it sound like the women-only experience would be more of a student's choice than the only way someone experiences Bryn Mawr. Do you feel this is not true/exaggerated?
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  • PublisherPublisher 9640 replies121 threads Senior Member
    OP described her social experience at Bryn Mawr as "dreadful". I suspect that this description goes beyond the single sex status of the school as many males are nearby at Haverford College.

    Bryn Mawr has a very strong "personality" and any degree of anonymity at this small school would be nearly impossible to experience.
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  • PublisherPublisher 9640 replies121 threads Senior Member
    edited January 21
    @collegemom3717 : Agree that OP is not at a rural LAC, but ways of coping (study abroad, study at nearby schools, joining common interest groups, & graduating early, for example) are similiar.

    What is similiar is that small LACs tend to have strong, dominate personalities & a lack of anonymity. Whether OP has fully identified her concerns is not clear. Excellent academics can be found at hundreds of US universities & colleges.
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  • happymomof1happymomof1 30032 replies181 threads Senior Member
    @iamincollege23 - You have been given excellent advice above. As for the mechanics of a transfer application list, where would you apply this time? Would you have an entirely new list, or would you reapply as a transfer to places where you were rejected last year?

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  • ArtsyKidDadArtsyKidDad 68 replies11 threads Junior Member
    I am fascinated by other posters' analyses and interpretations of every word of the original post.
    However, I would be much more interested in OP's response, otherwise our assumptions will overtake the thread.
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  • merc81merc81 10955 replies180 threads Senior Member
    While Bryn Mawr and Haverford are often perceived as offering a collective coeducational environment, note that women still constitute 79% of the students in the bi-college relationship.
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  • iamincollege23iamincollege23 2 replies1 threads New Member
    @merc81 This is very much true. I wish it was as easy as to "Just join clubs at Haverford" or "take a class at Haverford" but most of the relationships that I'd be forming would be female anyway because there such a small percentage of males in the bi-co.
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  • iamincollege23iamincollege23 2 replies1 threads New Member
    @happymomof1 I am planning on applying to schools similar in status to Bryn Mawr, just co-ed with the additional state schools just in case.

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  • merc81merc81 10955 replies180 threads Senior Member
    edited February 7
    If you would like to state your primary academic interests, we might be able to suggest schools for you, @iamincollege23.
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  • austinmshauriaustinmshauri 9369 replies352 threads Senior Member
    I think a lot will depend on your budget. Can your parents afford your state schools? If so, then it doesn't hurt to apply to other places because you'd have financial safeties.
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  • milgymfammilgymfam 1219 replies21 threads Senior Member
    edited February 7
    My kid is at Haverford and has never felt the experience is overwhelmingly female at all- most of her friends are guys (always have been). She splits her classes between the campuses and attends social events at Bryn Mawr, but also feels the majority of the weekend party activities are at Haverford. I’m guessing that living at Haverford wouldn’t help then- the campuses have very different feels according to her, but it sounds like you don’t really like either? You can apply or dorm at Haverford in the future if it would help at all.
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  • time4adventuretime4adventure 30 replies9 threads Junior Member
    @iamincollege23 I'm sorry you're not having a great time at college and I hope you figure out a solution that works for you.

    My daughter is interested in Bryn Mawr (but she's also applying to another women's college, so she's definitely open to women's colleges) and she's a little worried about the social life as well. She's not a party person though, but she does like to be social in terms of going to shows, watching movies, etc. Can you share at all of you thought Bryn Mawr social life was bad because it didn't have parties or because people studied all of the time or something else? Thank you!
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