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Parents caring for the parent support thread


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  • NerdMom88NerdMom88 Registered User Posts: 768 Member
    I went home today to celebrate my parents' birthdays -- 80 for Mom last week and 82 for Dad next week. Dad's dementia has been steadily worsening, but the shock this visit was Mom. Less than two weeks ago she told me that a NP had told her that blood work indicated a potential problem with her kidney function, likely related to her diabetes. She saw a specialist this week who ordered more tests and a scan next week. She said that he mentioned a possibility of dialysis at some point down the line. Then, today she hands me the paperwork from her visit (which she couldn't read due to diabetic retinopathy) and I see that the diagnosis is Stage IV kidney failure.
  • esobayesobay Registered User Posts: 1,192 Senior Member
    WOW NerdMom88, {{{NM88}}} massive hugs, that is really scary....

    It was weird that Mom's kidney function was terrible for years, yet when she went into the AL place, with people reminding her to drink, it became normal again. Not saying that is the case for your mom, it just surpirsed me because I thought kidney failures were a one-way street.
  • NerdMom88NerdMom88 Registered User Posts: 768 Member
    @esobay , my mom used to be a huge water drinker, and it's slowed down in the last 10 years or so. Her specialist told her to drink only what she felt like drinking, and not to force herself to drink more, because it would make her kidneys work even harder. That's not what I expected to hear...

    My dad doesn't seem concerned at all. I don't know if she's concealed this from him, or if he just isn't grasping the issue. Could be a bit of both.
  • GTalumGTalum Registered User Posts: 2,649 Senior Member
    @NerdMom88 My FIL stayed in stage 4 renal failure for 9-10 years. They even placed the equipment in his arm to get dialysis ("just in case") even though he said he would never get it. He was right. He died at 89.
  • mykidsgrannymykidsgranny Registered User Posts: 15 New Member
    My husband came very close to dialysis; finally meeting with a renal nutritionist brought home to him that he could NOT eat and drink just what he wanted to, and he managed to turn his kidney failure around just enough. But yes, they limited his liquid intake pretty drastically.
  • compmomcompmom Registered User Posts: 8,073 Senior Member
    Dehydration makes the GFR look worse. So drinking enough water for some hours before the blood test can make a difference in the stage sometimes.
  • NerdMom88NerdMom88 Registered User Posts: 768 Member
    Mom is really great about her eating, but she has been drinking a lot less. I'll mention it to her.
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