I was talking with a friend today and he shared that his son is having roommate issues.
In particular, my friend’s son has come home in the afternoon to find the roommate standing in the middle of the room and masturbating.
Any advice that I can pass to my friend on how to handle this.
Knock on the door.
It’s kinda weird that your friend’s son would share that, and that your friend would in turn share it with you.
But other than that, yeah, knocking.
Why should you have to knock when entering your own room??
Because you share it with someone else, whose room it also is???
I don’t think you should have to knock to enter your own room. The fact that it is shared mean that neither of you sole access.
What you are talking about seems like a different form of sexiling.
Interesting. In two years in the dorms with three different roommates, I didn’t knock coming into our room and neither did my roomies. The doors locked automatically, so I’d use my key, giving whoever was inside a clue that I was coming in. But I didn’t knock or expect one.
Maybe the roommate wants to be caught red-handed. Otherwise perhaps he would lock the door since if it has happened more than once.
This is creepy. Find a different roommate. Creeeepy.
He could suggest that the roommate start taking a shower in the afternoon.
I don’t thik you should have to knock in your own room either. I didn’t do it when I shared a dorm room.
However, it seems like something to suggest on this case. Maybe you’re right that you shouldn’t have to knock. But would you rather be right or wound you rather not have that happen again? I’d rather avoid a repeat personally.
I always knocked when coming into my dorm room. What if my roommate was changing in the dorm or something like that? It just seems like a courtesy to knock before opening the door to what is essentially a shared bedroom.
Aren’t there issues of … trajectory and disposal?
I wouldn’t want to witness this happening in our small, shared space, but once I do know, it changes how I feel about having you in it (all the time).
My roommate and I each had boyfriends, and neither of us knocked on the door before entering.
=))
It’s also unclear if the exposed roommate felt it was awkward, or is making a habit of spanking the monkey in public and has no qualms about it. Those would be completely different scenarios.
I think the standard guy to guy approach is called for. Any of the below will get the conversation going with the roommate depending on what kind of approach he wants to take.
“Dude, w.t.h?”
“Seriously man, nobody wants to see that”
“Listen, you need to keep your junk private because I can’t unsee something like that”
“In the middle of the room? Seriously?”
“Ever hear of a coat hanger on the door?”
“Here’s my class schedule. Take care of your business when I’m in class.”
“Tell me you’re aiming towards your side of the room.”
“You know the bathroom stalls have locks on the doors, right?”
perfect!
@anomander one of the best posts I’ve ever read on here!
That was pretty accurate except I would I also ask him if he wants me to help him get a girlfriend 
Anyways, I feel like this is a fairly common situation in college dorms…
or boyfriend