Smart Daughter with no motivation

<p>Unfortunately, one of the frequent outcomes of 12 years in the system, 13 if you include K, is learned helplessness. Kudos to you, RRTMom, for searching for ways to make it better. There <em>are</em> options and things you and your daughter <em>can</em> do. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I ask posters here this. If you were at a bad job, would you stay there another 12 years? Yet we question when kids rankle at same. I don’t know the OP’s daughter’s situation at school, but I would encourage people to look and look hard before you assume something is <em>wrong</em> with kids for not being completely enthused over leading a life where they are given very little control. See if you have other options that might be better.</p>