2 things:
1). If your only other choice is a crappy state U, then that was bad planning. With your stats you had many other choices that would have given you a “noncrappy” education and financial/merit if you needed that. I presume your choice of words was hyperbole, bc you seem like a fairly bright kid who would have understood the reality of the top 30 app pool.
2). Folks, let’s be real on both sides. Both are engaging in hyperbole. To say race was not a factor is ridiculous. To say race is the reason the friend got in is ridiculous. And by the way, OP did NOT say this is why the friend got in. I read the post and saw that aside as, “but he had a hook”. And yes, that hook is a factor. If that same kid was a white, wealthy suburban male, well, he’d need a hook too. Maybe a football player or senator’s son? The hook gets you a second look. Sadly, perfect scores get you barely a glance.
You’ll be fine. I was a bright kid who had no idea I could go to any top school for free. I did go to a regional state U bc it was free. I am now very successful. Grades and ECs fall away. The person you are and your experiences are what are important.
If you don’t want to go to crappy U, we can help you find a better school, even at this late date. If it is just venting, then give yourself a week of depression, and then stop and get on with it. No one cares about success. It teaches you nothing g and shows the world little about you. How you handle failure is another matter tho. What you learn from it is the key to life.
In my family, failure is not an option. Failing simply means one of 2 things: you are not finished yet, or the thing you’ve “tried” was not realistically achievable (i.e., Ivy or being an NBA or rock star, etc).