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Why are some college parties strict on letting certain people in?

sta3535sta3535 Registered User Posts: 269 Junior Member
I understand if it's for Greek life, a small friend group, or if it's really crowded, but doesn't it just suck when certain parties act his way?

It's quite unfortunate, but imagine this situation:

It's a slow night and there's not much going on, expect for a house party. The house party only allows certain people in. Maybe it's to regulate how many people come and go, but honestly, it's just frustrating when this happens.

If I ever threw a party, then I'd allow anyone in, I don't care, unless if it gets too crowded or crazy, then I'd try to fix any problems. In the end, it's technically the underage drinkers fault because they decided to come. But, I'd still have to deal with a possible noise complaint.

Overall, we all like to have fun at college, but understand that some people don't like to stay in their dorms on a Friday or Saturday night.

Replies to: Why are some college parties strict on letting certain people in?

  • Ranza123Ranza123 Registered User Posts: 1,345 Senior Member
    Throw your own party, then. I would never assume I could just walk into a party where I didn't know somebody, wasn't invited, and/or wasn't brought as someone's guest.
  • austinmshauriaustinmshauri Registered User Posts: 7,863 Senior Member
    A whole lot of your threads are related to partying. How's your GPA? Last fall you seemed concerned because it was a 2.6. We're you able to raise it any?
  • sta3535sta3535 Registered User Posts: 269 Junior Member
    edited April 2018
    @austinmshauri It's getting better now (3.0 or slightly higher), but just because I post stuff about partying and other random questions on here doesn't mean that I'm crazy about it. I just want to get people's thoughts and opinions on certain topics that are related to college. Furthermore, I'm not sure what colleges you go to, but it sounds like some people on here aren't so fond of discussing the fun side of college.

    Now, I'm going to tell you why I post these topics:

    When I decided to join this site, I fell in love with it. I could finally ask questions and get people's opinions on here. But after a couple of posts, I've learned quickly that there's a certain stigma on here. My "party" posts and my negative past experiences suddenly became a breeding ground of constructive criticism.

    Even though I've reacted negatively at times, I found out that some of the users on here we're just trying to help me get through my tough times. I only got frustrated because some people thought my ideas were bad, even though some of them sounded questionable. A classic example was how my college does the DD system:

    "People post their numbers and availability on our party Twitter page. The rates usually range between $1-5 depending on where you want to go. To a party, back to your dorm/apartment, Sheetz, etc. Although, I've never heard of any contracted Uber and/or Lyft drivers up here, which is quite weird for a college town."

    Overall, I believe that my posts aren't that bad. In fact, I should've just accepted the comments and advice from them because I think differently from others on here. So, it's all opinion based: Some people liked my ideas and others didn't.
  • austinmshauriaustinmshauri Registered User Posts: 7,863 Senior Member
    I'm glad your GPA is better. Sometimes the first semester is the hardest. Many of us are parents who want to encourage students to get their money's worth out of the academic opportunities their college has to offer. Drinking and partying aren't the only ways to have fun in college. As long as you find a way to balance the fun and the work, you should do fine.
  • MandalorianMandalorian Registered User Posts: 1,754 Senior Member
    Because a house is private property and who comes and goes is the resident's discretion.
  • UndercrackersUndercrackers Registered User Posts: 749 Member
    Become a homeowner. Then you will be a bit pickier about who and how many you let into your house.
  • juilletjuillet Super Moderator Posts: 12,649 Super Moderator
    Yeah, a lot of times it's about controlling damage and lowering the chances of involving the police or public safety.

    If you only let people in your immediate network in - or at least friends of friends - you either know the person directly or know someone who will vouch for their ability to not throw up in your ficus, rip your wallpaper off in a drunken rage, or annoy your neighbors to the point that they call the cops. And trying to kick people out of a party is way harder than preventing them from coming in in the first place.

    It's not really the host's responsibility to make sure that you have something to do on a Saturday night. There are lots of ways to occupy your time, including throwing your own shindig if you want to.

    Homeownership doesn't really matter, IMO; renters can lose their security deposit or be charged for damages. Also, renters generally dislike their stuff being destroyed just as much as homeowners do.
  • bjkmombjkmom Registered User Posts: 7,518 Senior Member
    edited May 2018
    By the time "it gets too crowded or crazy" it's already too late; you've lost control.

    Legally, you have a responsibility as a host to watch how much and who is drinking.

    And then again, there's the potential for damage or theft of your stuff by people you don't know well or don't know at all.
  • skieuropeskieurope Super Moderator Posts: 40,199 Super Moderator
    edited May 2018
    The house party only allows certain people in.
    My house, my party, my rules. So I can invite who I want and not invite/bar who I don't want. What's the issue? If you want a party, you can always create your own.
    Post edited by skieurope on
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