<p>Exactly right, classicalmama. </p>
<p>I remember being a newbie mom with a kid in 9th grade and we were at Junior Olympics and one of my friend’s kids played for a certain athletic coach. I wanted to say hi and acknowledge how much this family thought of him and he gave me the cold shoulder. I hadn’t said who my kud was either, but he was trying to avoid any impropriety. Didn’t understand that, then. </p>
<p>The rules are very different depending upon when and where you see a coach, whether a dead period or not and what recruiting year it is. </p>
<p>Some also wink about breaking rules if they think they will not be caught.</p>