<p>I think both the kid and the parents are responsible. The kid needs to earn the trust from parents and the parents need to let go at some point. My nephew is junior in college and my brother still flies in to help him to move in and move out. My neighbor is even worse. She is basically reading all the e-mails from schools and responds in her son’s name. Since the first day I went to college (actually before that) 30+ years ago, I was all on my own. I only needed my mom to help with financial aid application. For my D, I did coach her in the college application process. I think it is critical to find a list of right schools and they need to be affordable too. Once the deposit is paid and the financial arrangement is settled, I think my job is done.</p>