@Consolation OP does state it isn’t Pomona later in the thread. When I started around that time (2012), one of the first discussions that my sponsor group (community of 15-20 first years + 2-3 sophomores who live together in a hall) had was whether to designate bathrooms as gender-inclusive or leave them gendered. If even one person wanted a gendered bathroom, we’d do so- no shaming or dissent or questioning anything. All of us unanimously agreed to keep them gender-inclusive, but if there were any issues of comfort later, we could change it (ultimately, we didn’t, we were all discreet and clean).
There were other sponsor groups that did vote to have designated bathrooms. You would walk through different halls and see the voted system at work. Yes, there were bathrooms separate for men- it wasn’t just “women” and “gender neutral”. I have never heard of any controversy on this point in my time at Pomona- if there ever were reactions as vocal and hostile as described in OP’s thread, the whole school would have known!