@Sylvestor As noted by @FrozenNorth and @thumper1, it seems that you’ve got a favorite. Now, you want validation from this board to support your decision. Frankly, it sounds like you want someone to tell you that it’s okay to choose one school that literally costs twice as much as another school, while at the same time you profess you don’t want to be a burden financially. I’m glad that your mom supports you. That’s what moms are for, and as a mother, I know how much I want to give to my child. But here is the reality: what your family pays to ND for tuition/fees is gone. Period. What your family does not pay to SCU is money they get to keep, and use for other things.
Yes, it’s hard letting go of your dream, but a mature decision has to be made.
Yes, being a grown up stinks sometimes. (A lot of times.)
Best wishes on your decision.