I can give 1 perspective of a person who came from a small, west coast town to an Ivy League school… I don’t think the Ivy League is “for” everyone. You get a prestigious name but depending on where you end up and the field you enter, it may not be very valuable. I entered the public sector on the west coast and the name recognition value of my degree was no more than if I had attended any state school here.
However, if you are absolutely sure you will attend a selective grad school path (medicine) or are going into finance, the name and connections are incredibly valuable.
For my pathway, the cost doesn’t pencil out (although I had a very positive experience).