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Brown you broke my heart (Don't write about Rape)

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  • lookingforwardlookingforward 35153 replies398 threads Senior Member
    Nice. I'm curious if you sent them the same addl info.

    I know you've had a hard time through hs, too much that was beyond your control. But your first post here showed that PTSD. I hope you can get some support, before next fall, a good therapist who specializes with late teens/college age kids. You can grow a lot by next fall.
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  • LindagafLindagaf 9734 replies521 threads Senior Member
    edited January 2019
    This question comes up often: why do you want to go to a school that doesn’t want you?

    Thank about that, and put the thought away forever. Forget Brown. Also, it’s ridiculous to say you don’t deserve a particular college. That implies you are being punished and that you are unworthy. You are not being punished and you are worthy. Stop looking at it as though they are rejecting you. See it for what it is: they can’t admit everyone they’d like to admit.

    For those students reading this, I’ll reiterate what myself and others have said: writing about your trauma, bad experience, poor family situation, illness, death of a relative, or whatever it may be is rarely a good idea. This is mainly because the vast majority of students can’t write well about such things.
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  • skieuropeskieurope 40200 replies7436 threads Super Moderator
    This question comes up often: why do you want to go to a school that doesn’t want you?
    The corollary: Love the school that loves you back
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  • websensationwebsensation 2120 replies39 threads Senior Member
    edited January 2019
    I gotta be honest. You loved Brown and also applied to MIT and U of C, two schools I view as very, very different from Brown? I view MIT as a tough place to flourish unless you love their culture and grueling work. Maybe I am wrong.

    Why not to Rice or Pomona type of schools?
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  • Happytimes2001Happytimes2001 1712 replies13 threads Senior Member
    Two things: First, I agree with @Lindagaf writing about trauma is rarely a good idea. One thing I have learned is that people can rarely process something which is traumatic and which they have no experience in dealing with ( this includes murder, rape, car jackings, drug abuse, terrorism etc etc). Sure they can empathize. But they can't process it. It's outside the realm of their experience.
    Second, no school rejects you personally. They accept the best group of candidates based on who applies. They don't care that you like their school ( not a factor). They only care about the overall group. And finally, exposure essays raise a lot of questions: 1. Are you going to have issues after the event? 2. Is the person reading it getting a better sense of who you are and what you will bring to their community?
    I wish you all the best. I hope that you get the therapy you need. I also hope that you can process the event and heal so that you can have a great college experience.
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  • Houston1021Houston1021 1189 replies21 threadsForum Champion Rice Forum Champion
    edited January 2019
    Who knows why Brown did not admit you. It is time to turn your attention to other schools where you applied that you would be happy to attend. The school you choose to attend will be lucky to have you. If Brown admits you in the RD round, and you choose to attend, that is icing on the cake.

    I assume you are female. By the way, It is much more difficult for a female to get into Brown than a male because many more females than males apply to Brown. The converse is true at MIT. More males apply to MIT than females. It is a numbers game and colleges work to achieve a roughly equal gender ratio. http://www.browndailyherald.com/2016/11/30/brown-consistently-admits-male-applicants-higher-rate/
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  • alexandra00alexandra00 242 replies17 threads Junior Member
    @SoccerMomGenie I did not write my main common app about rape, just the additional info. You are right and I do need to move on. Thank you for the inspiring advice, I have talked to my counselor and she will also send a new report to Brown.
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  • alexandra00alexandra00 242 replies17 threads Junior Member
    @Houston1021 Thank you!!1
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  • theloniusmonktheloniusmonk 2598 replies5 threads Senior Member
    "I view MIT as a tough place to flourish unless you love their culture and grueling work. Maybe I am wrong.
    Why not to Rice or Pomona type of schools?"

    A lot of this depends on the major but assuming it's MIT so a technical one, there's not going to be much difference between MIT, Rice and Pomona, except for the caliber of students. Retention and graduation rates for women at MIT are very good, first off, slightly better than men, and second as good or better than the grad rates of the colleges mentioned.
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  • Nocreativity1Nocreativity1 1112 replies55 threads Senior Member
    ^Intended Major: Environmental Science and IR (or history). From previous post.
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  • nrtlax33nrtlax33 671 replies15 threads Member
    edited January 2019
    @alexandra00 : This Harvard student in the video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bCUz-lBxUtY) has similar experience like yours. Also, in my YouTube feed today, this video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZWqYbrTQjfE) just shows up, which might be helpful to you. As you can see, some people do get in after being deferred. Her campus tour (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GX45O1rSmB8) is short and sweet. My kid has been helping some of its HS friends applying to Brown. None of them got in so far. :-/ :-/ One thing which strikes me all the time is that kids there are so happy. Best luck to you.
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  • alexandra00alexandra00 242 replies17 threads Junior Member
    @lookingforward @skieurope @websensation @Lindagaf @happy1 I am pretty sure I know why I was deferred
    excerpt from my LOCI
    I made significant mistakes on my Early Decision application, pasting my essays into the wrong prompts in the application and submitting a recommendation that had out of date information. My stress over being the perfect student and sending a perfect application led me to overthink and make mistakes. Although disappointing, my deferral has been a blessing in disguise. It has allowed me to accept that I'm not perfect and do not have to be. I have attached a new recommendation, and Brown is the only school to which I am submitting additional information. If admitted to Brown I will attend, not as the perfect person I aspired to be, but as the person I truly am.

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  • alexandra00alexandra00 242 replies17 threads Junior Member
    @collegemom3717 @Nocreativity1 @twoinanddone @scholardad @intparent @SouthernHope

    I know have discovered that the rape essay was not what got me deferred.
    Excerpt from my LOCI

    "I made significant mistakes on my Early Decision application, pasting my essays into the wrong prompts in the application and submitting a recommendation that had out of date information. My stress over being the perfect student and sending a perfect application led me to overthink and make mistakes. Although disappointing, my deferral has been a blessing in disguise. It has allowed me to accept that I'm not perfect and do not have to be. I have attached a new recommendation, and Brown is the only school to which I am submitting additional information. Brown has always been my first choice and if I am admitted, I will absolutely attend, not as the perfect person I aspired to be, but as the person I truly am."

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  • alexandra00alexandra00 242 replies17 threads Junior Member
  • Happytimes2001Happytimes2001 1712 replies13 threads Senior Member
    Wishing you the best of luck! Many of those who are deferred do eventually get accepted. I think it's the whole package they are accepting not just one piece. All the best.
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  • Nocreativity1Nocreativity1 1112 replies55 threads Senior Member
    You will be a great addition to whatever college community you decide to join. The person you "truly" are will resonate with people I am sure.

    I know the waiting is a killer but stay confident with the knowledge you have given it your best shot. Hope you wind up at Brown but first and foremost I wish you continued happiness.
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  • alexandra00alexandra00 242 replies17 threads Junior Member
    @Nocreativity1 thank you! After a lot of soul searching. I've decided I might go to a LAC or Women's college (Smith, Kenyon, Grinnell, Wellesley, Barnard) in a way I am happy that I was deferred from Brown as I might not have been as happy there. My boyfriend is a sophomore at Brown and I was nervous that I was applying there early for the wrong reasons. Thank you so much for your support and encouragement.
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