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Our Sons' Experience on Tinder
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Yes, in many cases, you need dialogue, first. Online and by phone.
As for scammers, I have a friend being scammed now. He's in love. He's going to marry this guy, when the guy comes back from a military stint. In less than 5 minutes, online, I learned this guy is married and shows up on scam alerts that his photo is known to be misppropriated by scammers. I can't tell him anything, without a row.
But c'mon. Have the condom conversation. Pronto.
Whatever apps the OP's son uses, it makes sense to put some serious effort into crafting a profile that's attractive to the sort of women he wants to attract, and that signals what he's looking for.
I am on a team that travels within the US and to other countries. Most of the teammates are 20 something guys with a few women mixed in and since I'm not their parent, they're very open with me - maybe a little too open. Without exception, every single one of them uses Tinder and they use it for hook ups, not long term dating. This has been teh case in every place we've traveled, so it doesn't appear to be regional. The team had a good laugh when they first showed me Tinder and I asked how you'd know if this is someone you'd want to date based on a picture and a few sentences... they said it's "not for dating!"
If your son wants a long term relationship he should go to sites with other people looking for the same.
Your son really needs better pictures. Find someone with photography skills and photo editing skills to raise his perceived attractiveness and thus his ELO score. Good pictures get selected way more often than poor ones, and getting selected keeps the profile toward the top of the pile.
He should add Hinge, Bumble, Coffee meets Bagel, and other free apps. Especially in thinly populated areas he needs to play the numbers game.
My post grad d would use tinder when she came home, but only did it to connect to boys she knew from growing up.
She is in the early stages of a relationship with someone she's known for a few years through other friends. My son - sigh - sweet, funny, smart, kind, cute, definitely not cool or suave, but genuine - not sure how he'll ever meet anyone. It also doesn't seem to be a priority for him either. I suspect when he feels ready he's going to go hunt down a woman and marry her in 2 minutes of knowing her.
Suffice it to say no one way is guarantee of a wonderful, "clean", lifelong relationship.
Bar hookups last forever....and not.
Dating apps last forever...and not.
And apparently I'm not an "old peep" because I've never heard or used the term "meet/meat market" for a bar or anything else.
Geez, let's take all the pleasure out of mostly pleasant dating!
Tinder bears as much resemblance to dating as the phrase "Netflix and chill" bears to watching a movie/TV.
You're doing a disservice to those people by demeaning what worked for people important to them.
I also won't think less of a relationship that was a result of a drunken bar night. Relationships have various and sometimes different starts.
He could try sizzle.com (for bacon lovers) or OnlyFarmers.com (if...he's a farmer) if he wants to specialize.
And absolutely it was a meat market and that’s what I called it.
People laugh when I tell them that, because we are so not cool and never were.