I keep hearing about this site called My Social Calendar. It's about going to different fun activities and getting a chance to meet new people. It seems like it's a bunch of group events where you get to socialize.
You mentioned living in a rural area. Do you think there is a chance he would consider a job in a city where there would be more opportunity to meet young people?
We have three successful relationships that started on Tinder in our family. One led to marriage and the other two have been in a relationship for a year or more. It is not just for hook ups. All live in big metro areas though.
Hiking club, ski club, running group/club, environmental volunteerism, discussion groups, political groups, college alum group/outings etc.. He's very young.
My oldest son met his wife by a dating app, OK Cupid. Man, she is perfect for him. It is pretty uncanny. And now the mother of my second grandchild. He was much older by the time they met and very disillusioned by that point. The rest of us HIGHLY encouraged him to try one of the match apps. I personally know several marriages that came from them.
My relative's relationships with Tinder--one she dated for close to 2 years and the other she's now living with, after dating for over a year. I consider both of those relationships much more than a "one night stand" or "hooking up." Both the the guys were very nice, handsome and well-educated.
I would say over 50% of the weddings I've been to the last 5 years, the couples met through dating apps. My niece and her husband met through Tinder, she is a successful millionaire entrepreneur and he is a radiologist. Like everything else, one has to be careful and use common sense no matter how you meet people.
I'd be more concerned with his apparent lack of regard for his / his partner's sexual health than his 'naivete', or where the next date / hook-up is coming from.
University officials say the woman isn't being sought for a criminal investigation, but they do want the third-party propositioning to stop.
I'll bet university officials aren't the only people who want the third-party propositioning to stop. The boy is probably desperate to have his mother arrested or something. Anything! Just stop, Mom!
NPR aired a piece last year (around Valentine's Day!) about dating apps. The expert they interviewed advocated Tinder because it had the most number of people signed up. He said finding the right fit had more to do with numbers than the complex algorithms used by some of the apps. Most dating is preceded by extensive texting, so a hook-up only occurs if that is what both parties seek.
My daughter used OK Cupid for awhile and had some successful dating experiences. However the guy she is with now is someone she met in person and they bonded over some shared 'baggage'. I suspect their 'match' percentage would have been very low on a dating app because few people seek to match on the bad things going on in their lives.
Someone using Tinder needs to do everything possible to attract swipes so they can filter from the largest pool of candidates. A good photo and status as a college graduate should do the trick. As long as he's working I don't think job quality is a big issue for most women.
Oh, I think job quality is a HUGE issue for many young women who use apps like Tinder. Of course, I've no way of knowing that, but to me it seems likely it will matter.
The OP hasn’t come back so I’m not sure if they’ve left the building or not. They haven’t updated anything since the original post.
But in the OP, she was wondering why her son wasn’t meeting the type of girl they wanted to meet.
I pointed out that maybe tinder wasn’t working for him and that there are other dating sites out there that he might want to use. I also gave some other pointers about trying to find a girl he would like to be in a long term relationship with.
It seems that people want to dwell on tinder and that you can find a long term relationship on it. Yes you can, and there are reasons that it might not be working. This isn’t about is tinder bad. This is about what are good tips to find someone while navigating dating apps.
Or maybe I’m all wrong and the OP just wanted to vent. Her son may want to meet the kind of women he’s meeting on tinder and he may want exactly what he is finding.
@deb922 , I'm sure I've been guilty of being the thread diverter but you are really right that sometimes threads so awry because the OP isn't around to keep it on task. Without feedback from the OP about comments, we start making our own feedback!!
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You mentioned living in a rural area. Do you think there is a chance he would consider a job in a city where there would be more opportunity to meet young people?
My oldest son met his wife by a dating app, OK Cupid. Man, she is perfect for him. It is pretty uncanny. And now the mother of my second grandchild. He was much older by the time they met and very disillusioned by that point. The rest of us HIGHLY encouraged him to try one of the match apps. I personally know several marriages that came from them.
Is his name John? https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7945720/
http://www.wbtv.com/2019/02/11/not-rom-com-mom-scouting-date-son-draws-campus-ire/
I'll bet university officials aren't the only people who want the third-party propositioning to stop. The boy is probably desperate to have his mother arrested or something. Anything! Just stop, Mom!
My daughter used OK Cupid for awhile and had some successful dating experiences. However the guy she is with now is someone she met in person and they bonded over some shared 'baggage'. I suspect their 'match' percentage would have been very low on a dating app because few people seek to match on the bad things going on in their lives.
Someone using Tinder needs to do everything possible to attract swipes so they can filter from the largest pool of candidates. A good photo and status as a college graduate should do the trick. As long as he's working I don't think job quality is a big issue for most women.
But in the OP, she was wondering why her son wasn’t meeting the type of girl they wanted to meet.
I pointed out that maybe tinder wasn’t working for him and that there are other dating sites out there that he might want to use. I also gave some other pointers about trying to find a girl he would like to be in a long term relationship with.
It seems that people want to dwell on tinder and that you can find a long term relationship on it. Yes you can, and there are reasons that it might not be working. This isn’t about is tinder bad. This is about what are good tips to find someone while navigating dating apps.
Or maybe I’m all wrong and the OP just wanted to vent. Her son may want to meet the kind of women he’s meeting on tinder and he may want exactly what he is finding.
He's got more issues than a bad photo.
1. Because there is no problem in the world affecting teenagers and twentysomethings that some parent on CC isn't trying to solve.
2. Don't discount the possibility that running to talk about it on CC is her way of re channeling energy that would otherwise be used butting in..