Hard to stay firm with one’s daughter, but a firm line must be drawn on the financial front. My wife just mentioned a co-worker talking well north of $100K for his daughter’s wedding. That is what I call “funny” money - lavish spending for one day. At least the ROI for higher ed makes some sense; however, college costs have comparably gotten out of control and one must stay grounded. Limit her to affordable options. The SUNY system is an absolute bargain. I agree with the poster above who said for her to set her sights on Columbia Law - not undergrad.