Someone encouraged me to post this - and it's kind of fun to look back on my neurosis so here goes.
You've done the deed (accepted at a school). And now you are happy, scared, neurotic, confused and sometimes blissful.
Here's what you may experience (or not) in the coming months and years
May - buyers remorse. Followed by the fact that you didn't get enough money compared to everyone else. You have permission to exaggerated your scholarship - everyone else does.
June - Par-tay - Graduation party palooza and you're feeling good. Buyer's remorse has subsided as you find out amazing things about the new school via twitter!! You will find yourself bragging (after a few glasses of wine) at grad parties of how your child's school is #1 in sustainable roof tiles! Yes, roof tiles! They really care about the environment there! On the school's Twitter feed you will find out about awards that you had no idea a school could receive. But you are feeling good and nostalgic.
July - the one stable month - enjoy! Unless something from Aug creeps into July!!
August - lots to worry about!! You'll find out their roommate and seriously wonder if they could be a serial killer. Well that's ridiculous - maybe just a thief. Or a pot dealer omg!!! And inevitably you'll hear about a robbery or crime by the school or in the city or the state (you'll find one!!) and it will freak you out! And for extra fun you'll hear about multiple crimes or lock downs at the schools (or any school). These are not the best days. Regardless you'll spend tons of money at Bed Bath & Beyond bc all you can do anymore is spend money on them. And as the departure date nears you will spend even more money! There's a correlation there. Really they don't need the small desk that hooks on to the side bed, the mini-fan or assortment of mini-lights. If it hooks to the bed don't buy it! Note you will put all this stuff in a room and organize it many times (in secret) and your child will not pack a thing until the night before!
Freshman year - OMG it is the most amazing school! They have a themester that incorporates saving the environment with Shakespeare and Mozart all done on Youtube while playing Frisbee on the quad! I wish I was a college student again!!
Your student: loving it (and lying a bit) or hating it (and being honest). By Easter they aren't thinking about transferring anymore. They survived one long year of "camp".
Sophomore year - OK the school's not perfect. But hey they are learning a ton and have great friends. It's just I don't understand how I can pay so much and still their great technology program that I read about on twitter doesn't seem to be working for my child!!
Your student: It's really not camp and I have to live here 3 more years - sophomore slump. A new set of friends pulls them out. And they start getting used to college.
Junior year - Ugh I don't care if their IT stuff never works! You're fine just get your degree!!! My god I spend so much money and seriously she can't get on-line. But just when you are getting frustrated with the gobs you are spending on the school, you go out to the bar with them for the first time. It's after a show and the orchestra is still in their tuxes, the opera singers still in their make-up and the place is up for grabs. They have THEIR bar! They'll remember this place forever. And all the sudden it all seems worth it again.
Your student: Happy.
Senior year - Get your degree! I don't care about the IT problems anymore! Wait until you get in the real world, it's just as bad! And then omg I have to spend $400 a night at a hotel for graduation!! Seriously...one final money shake down before we drive out of there!! Where's that bar?!? I need it.
Your student: Scared about their future...but self-directed and handling it pretty well...they have grown up.
Now on to grad school...omg it's the most amazing school...
This was fun...and I'm sure some could add to it. It's just the experience of one neurotic parent. Your experience may differ.