And we all know people our age who ended up marrying their drunken bar hookups. But because it "worked out" for someone we know, that still doesn't mean drunken one night stands found at a bar are how we'd recommend our kids find long term relationships. Tinder is the modern version of looking for a "date" at what us old folks called a Meet/Meat Market (bar). Seriously, old peeps. Your kids and young family members aren't going to tell you this, but it is what it is.
Well, everyone has their own experiences, but I assure you that my priest daughter wasn't looking for hookups on Tinder and she met some lovely men before settling on her current boyfriend, who is on the nerdy side and was definitely looking for a serious relationship.
It was definitely a hookup app when it started but I hear it's not (just) that anymore, just like Facebook isn't only for college students and Snapchat has moved beyond nudes. Unless I'm mistaken, it's the most active dating app with people that age, so you're going to get all types.
He could try sizzle.com (for bacon lovers) or OnlyFarmers.com (if...he's a farmer) if he wants to specialize.
My S met his GF on a dating site a few years ago - not Tinder, but some other site (either a site for people who don't want kids or one that has filters for people who don't want kids). They are really, really happy. S would not have met his GF any other way - dating sites seem to do the trick.
I keep hearing about this site called My Social Calendar. It's about going to different fun activities and getting a chance to meet new people. It seems like it's a bunch of group events where you get to socialize.
You mentioned living in a rural area. Do you think there is a chance he would consider a job in a city where there would be more opportunity to meet young people?
We have three successful relationships that started on Tinder in our family. One led to marriage and the other two have been in a relationship for a year or more. It is not just for hook ups. All live in big metro areas though.
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Hiking club, ski club, running group/club, environmental volunteerism, discussion groups, political groups, college alum group/outings etc.. He's very young.
My oldest son met his wife by a dating app, OK Cupid. Man, she is perfect for him. It is pretty uncanny. And now the mother of my second grandchild. He was much older by the time they met and very disillusioned by that point. The rest of us HIGHLY encouraged him to try one of the match apps. I personally know several marriages that came from them.
My relative's relationships with Tinder--one she dated for close to 2 years and the other she's now living with, after dating for over a year. I consider both of those relationships much more than a "one night stand" or "hooking up." Both the the guys were very nice, handsome and well-educated.
I would say over 50% of the weddings I've been to the last 5 years, the couples met through dating apps. My niece and her husband met through Tinder, she is a successful millionaire entrepreneur and he is a radiologist. Like everything else, one has to be careful and use common sense no matter how you meet people.
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Suffice it to say no one way is guarantee of a wonderful, "clean", lifelong relationship.
Bar hookups last forever....and not.
Dating apps last forever...and not.
And apparently I'm not an "old peep" because I've never heard or used the term "meet/meat market" for a bar or anything else.
Geez, let's take all the pleasure out of mostly pleasant dating!
Tinder bears as much resemblance to dating as the phrase "Netflix and chill" bears to watching a movie/TV.
You're doing a disservice to those people by demeaning what worked for people important to them.
I also won't think less of a relationship that was a result of a drunken bar night. Relationships have various and sometimes different starts.
He could try sizzle.com (for bacon lovers) or OnlyFarmers.com (if...he's a farmer) if he wants to specialize.
And absolutely it was a meat market and that’s what I called it.
People laugh when I tell them that, because we are so not cool and never were.
You mentioned living in a rural area. Do you think there is a chance he would consider a job in a city where there would be more opportunity to meet young people?
My oldest son met his wife by a dating app, OK Cupid. Man, she is perfect for him. It is pretty uncanny. And now the mother of my second grandchild. He was much older by the time they met and very disillusioned by that point. The rest of us HIGHLY encouraged him to try one of the match apps. I personally know several marriages that came from them.