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Our Sons' Experience on Tinder

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  • raclutraclut 3751 replies238 threads Senior Member
    edited February 2019
    I keep hearing about this site called My Social Calendar. It's about going to different fun activities and getting a chance to meet new people. It seems like it's a bunch of group events where you get to socialize.

    You mentioned living in a rural area. Do you think there is a chance he would consider a job in a city where there would be more opportunity to meet young people?
    edited February 2019
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  • KnitkneelionmomKnitkneelionmom 448 replies52 threads Member
    We have three successful relationships that started on Tinder in our family. One led to marriage and the other two have been in a relationship for a year or more. It is not just for hook ups. All live in big metro areas though.
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  • VaBluebirdVaBluebird 3449 replies245 threads Senior Member
    edited February 2019
    Hiking club, ski club, running group/club, environmental volunteerism, discussion groups, political groups, college alum group/outings etc.. He's very young.
    My oldest son met his wife by a dating app, OK Cupid. Man, she is perfect for him. It is pretty uncanny. And now the mother of my second grandchild. He was much older by the time they met and very disillusioned by that point. The rest of us HIGHLY encouraged him to try one of the match apps. I personally know several marriages that came from them.
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  • HImomHImom 35403 replies396 threads Senior Member
    My relative's relationships with Tinder--one she dated for close to 2 years and the other she's now living with, after dating for over a year. I consider both of those relationships much more than a "one night stand" or "hooking up." Both the the guys were very nice, handsome and well-educated.
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  • cbreezecbreeze 4720 replies92 threads Senior Member
    I would say over 50% of the weddings I've been to the last 5 years, the couples met through dating apps. My niece and her husband met through Tinder, she is a successful millionaire entrepreneur and he is a radiologist. Like everything else, one has to be careful and use common sense no matter how you meet people.
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  • momo2x2018momo2x2018 996 replies57 threads Senior Member
    I'd be more concerned with his apparent lack of regard for his / his partner's sexual health than his 'naivete', or where the next date / hook-up is coming from.
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  • OspreyCV22OspreyCV22 1666 replies20 threads Senior Member
    @cbreeze wrote: …"and he is a radiologist..."

    Is his name John? https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7945720/
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  • MomofWildChildMomofWildChild 23243 replies199 threads Senior Member
    LOL. Post of the day.
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  • jonrijonri 7357 replies135 threads Senior Member
    edited February 2019
    Local news had this same story tonight..Mom of male student at Rowan U. is going around with his photo asking girls to date him.

    http://www.wbtv.com/2019/02/11/not-rom-com-mom-scouting-date-son-draws-campus-ire/
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  • momsquadmomsquad 1112 replies64 threads Senior Member
    NPR aired a piece last year (around Valentine's Day!) about dating apps. The expert they interviewed advocated Tinder because it had the most number of people signed up. He said finding the right fit had more to do with numbers than the complex algorithms used by some of the apps. Most dating is preceded by extensive texting, so a hook-up only occurs if that is what both parties seek.

    My daughter used OK Cupid for awhile and had some successful dating experiences. However the guy she is with now is someone she met in person and they bonded over some shared 'baggage'. I suspect their 'match' percentage would have been very low on a dating app because few people seek to match on the bad things going on in their lives.

    Someone using Tinder needs to do everything possible to attract swipes so they can filter from the largest pool of candidates. A good photo and status as a college graduate should do the trick. As long as he's working I don't think job quality is a big issue for most women.
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  • jonrijonri 7357 replies135 threads Senior Member
    Oh, I think job quality is a HUGE issue for many young women who use apps like Tinder. Of course, I've no way of knowing that, but to me it seems likely it will matter.
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  • Youdon'tsayYoudon'tsay 19442 replies463 threads Senior Member
    I won't out her, but there's a cc poster whose ds met his current gf on Tinder. They've been together two years now and are living together.
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  • deb922deb922 6022 replies201 threads Senior Member
    The OP hasn’t come back so I’m not sure if they’ve left the building or not. They haven’t updated anything since the original post.

    But in the OP, she was wondering why her son wasn’t meeting the type of girl they wanted to meet.

    I pointed out that maybe tinder wasn’t working for him and that there are other dating sites out there that he might want to use. I also gave some other pointers about trying to find a girl he would like to be in a long term relationship with.

    It seems that people want to dwell on tinder and that you can find a long term relationship on it. Yes you can, and there are reasons that it might not be working. This isn’t about is tinder bad. This is about what are good tips to find someone while navigating dating apps.

    Or maybe I’m all wrong and the OP just wanted to vent. Her son may want to meet the kind of women he’s meeting on tinder and he may want exactly what he is finding.
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  • Mom22039Mom22039 630 replies53 threads Member
    I’ve read a review that indicates Bumble is worth looking at....
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  • abasketabasket 20529 replies896 threads Senior Member
    @deb922 , I'm sure I've been guilty of being the thread diverter but you are really right that sometimes threads so awry because the OP isn't around to keep it on task. Without feedback from the OP about comments, we start making our own feedback!!

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  • Nrdsb4Nrdsb4 17564 replies164 threads Senior Member
    Apparently safe sex isn't on the OP's son's radar. Put that on his profile so at least the buyer can beware.

    He's got more issues than a bad photo.
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  • deborahbdeborahb 362 replies3 threads Member
    And why is mom trying to solve this?
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  • deb922deb922 6022 replies201 threads Senior Member
    What a wise man you are @JHS
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