I took my daughter (a senior this year) to visit a couple schools she's interested in this past weekend. We arranged a dorm visit at one school. I noticed the bathroom in the hallway has a sign that reads "(wo)men". Our guide said that it's for both boys and girls. I went inside. There are three toilet stalls along one wall, three sinks along another, and three single shower stalls side by side along another wall, each has a curtain covering the front. So that means there may be a boy and a girl showering right next to each other. While we were walking in the hallway, the bathroom door opened and out walked a half naked boy, by that I mean he's got a towel wrapped around his waist, and he walked by us leisurely. I didn't get to see what my daughter's reaction was (she's slow on the maturity level, kind of shy as we are asian).
Could I be the only one not comfortable with this situation? From what I learned from our host, the school lets the residents on each floor to decide if they want the bathrooms to be co-ed. Even in a girls only dorm, the bathroom could be co-ed because "some residents may have boyfriends visiting". Is this the norm at many schools now?
It may sound crazy but this can potentially be a deal breaker for me as to daughter's college choice. Can I call the college admissions office directly and ask them what their policy and practice is regarding communal bathroom in dorms? There are already so many factors to consider in the college selection process and I'm just shocked that bathrooms can potentially be an issue too.