Thanks for the kind words, @HImom. His secret santa is much younger (insanely intelligent) and pretty socially awkward–not a potential date or even a good friend, but someone he respects and likes. As he has matured, he has come to appreciate all of her great qualities and just wants to make sure she feels included and appreciated. I’m glad that he has internalized all of my speeches about the importance of being kind to everyone, particularly those who are different:)