<p>Our S did not enjoy being the center of attention at 16 but we wanted to do something. I asked a good friend (girl) of his who WAS very social to tell us who would our S enjoy having dinner with. I sent printed invites to these 9 kids. S had picked PF Changs for his bday dinner with family so when we got to the restaurant, his friends were waiting, we left. H and I showed up 2 hours later to pay the bill. They all had a great dinner and S seemed to really enjoy it.</p>
<p>I haven’t read all the thread so forgive me if this has been mentioned. When my DS turned 18, I threw him a surprise paintball party for 16 boys. They had a ball. After the party, I made them dinner, then they left. It was a good day for all of us.</p>
<p>Definitely include a friend or two in the planning. I just planned an 18th birthday party for my D, with her best friend. D knew the date but not the details. Her friend came up with the guest list and the plan - dinner out at a nice restaurant (the invitation specified "nice dresses and heels ;)) followed by a sleep-over at our house - and she sent out the invitations. I made the arrangements with the restaurant (including a limited menu so I could keep some control of the cost), paid for dinner, and provided late-night snacks and breakfast. It was way better than if I had planned it all myself and tried to surprise her.</p>