<p>There are plenty of reasons to seek counseling here. The son’s poor performance could just be extreme flakiness, but that inability to get out of bed in the morning could just as easily be a product of clinical depression. Whatever the problem is, it’s worth figuring out the causes in order to address it. Additionally, I think family therapy would be a great idea. This can both give the other family members the support and tools they need to deal with the situation, and help the son break out of the “f-up” role in which he has been cast (which is not to say that his behavior is not responsible for his having been cast in this role).</p>