18yo returning home after semester away

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<p>SteveMa:

How would you feel if your “family” hated you? How bad is it really? What is his GPA?

SteveMa said she had read OP’s posts, yet she missed this post by OP’s son:

I ended up failing my biology class. Getting a D in my chemistry class. Getting a CD in my Statistics class, and getting a C in my English class. I have a GPA of 1.143 for the end of the term.

This was mom’s post:

I’m the parent
I am the parent in this situation. Went to pick up our student after final exams last week – learned that no final exams had been taken. Had not gone to classes in about a month. Got overwhelmed, slept through a few classes and got behind, and just QUIT. And yes, we are disappointed. If we had known, we could have helped earlier.

I fail to see where OP said that she hated her son. She is disappointed with her son’s performance and is blaming herself a bit for not have known about it before hand. I do think OP probably should have been more hands on with her son, but it’s not her fault that her son completely messed up the first semester. She is doing what she could to help out her son, and I think SteveMa’s tone was harsh and extremely judgmental.</p>

<p>Every kid matures differently. Just because they turned 18, it doesn’t always make them adults all of a sudden. Our kids walked and talked at different age, and we didn’t think they were slow in development just because they walked 3 months later than “average,” so why do we expect all of our kids to behave like adults at exactly 18.</p>