<p>I am the OP. I am new to this online forum business, and amazed at the feedback received in the past 24 hours. I started to cut and paste helpful bits to print and study, but quickly saw that there was too much for that. </p>
<p>“Overwhelmed” is a good assessment of how I feel right now, and I guess that comes through. When 18yo moved out, we realized that we had overlooked some serious problems with his younger siblings – caused in part by living with his ongoing challenges and crises. Adding him back into the mix feels like more than I can deal with right now, as we are having intense issues with another child. I feel like I am juggling the needs of several young people who each need lots of attention and help, and it is not fair to the younger ones to be put on the back burner again by their older brother’s latest drama. There have been some very helpful suggestions posted. I appreciate all the feedback, and will be sorting it out in the next few days. Thank you.</p>