I’m sorry you are in this position. I do think you need to insist that they let you know exactly how much they can afford to pay. You will have to get answers to that, because you are going to be filing FAFSA and will need firm numbers for any loans you do take out. Either they want you to go to college or,they don’t, so they can’t keep messing you around about the numbers. Remember, no one is going to hand over the money you need, not at this stage.
Have you got a family member who can advocate for you and sit down for a serious discussion with you and your parents? Would they be willing to go to a meeting with you and your guidance counselor who can help explain how financing college works?
I also amazed at the faulty logic that it’s more shameful to go to CC or work an honest job than to be tens of thousands of dollars in debt. The Prestige ship sailed long ago. You can turn it around, but not until you’ve earned the grades.