When my DIL said she didn’t care, that morphed into “Why don’t both of you wear navy?” Totally worked, especially since the bridesmaids were in floral. If she truly doesn’t care, and you like navy, just ask her. If she prefers you be in a different color, the purples mentioned above, or a lighter/multi-colored blue would be beautiful…or, how about copper? Gold would be too light, I think, but copper has the richness of navy, in my opinion.
Thank you all so much! I loved deep purple so that’ll be my first choice, but if I see another good blue or even possibly the copper I’ll try those too! We booked a lovely venue for the rehearsal dinner yesterday so it’s all coming together nicely. Hopefully the dress won’t be too difficult. I’ve checked Dillard’s, Macy’s, Neimans, Nordstrom’s, but need to go back through. Any other recommendations? We have David’s bridal so I’ll check there as well.
Check Saks, I had luck there.
@AllThisIsNewToMe , the dress in #4313 has long been a favorite! I think that the plum, especially, or wisteria (thumper’s color) would look great with the MOB’s dress: well balanced colors. I think that someone else here was considering it in navy, which is also nice, but I can’t recall who.
The David’s Bridal dress you posted is nice too.
The MOG and I both wore navy to my daughter’s wedding. This was simply a coincidence. She looked better in her dress than I did in mine, but that’s because she looks ten years younger than me even though she’s three years older.
Also, she managed to put her hair up, and I didn’t. I was so nervous that I couldn’t manage the braided bun I had planned (despite an hour of trying – and this is a style that I’ve known how to do for 40 years). I had to go to my daughter’s wedding with my hair in a ponytail.
Just got a text from my son asking what song I wanted to dance the mother/son dance to. I can’t dance. I don’t want everyone looking at me while I attempt it. I don’t even know if my son can dance. How do I get out of this?
The dress in post 4313 is really lovely in the wisteria color (lavender).
I think it would look great next to those blues! It’s a very pretty and comfortable dress!!
The blue is very pretty too…not as dark as navy…sort of a dark sapphire blue.
If they don’t have your size at Dillard’s, try Lord and Taylor.
I’m your height and the petite size didn’t need a bit of hemming! But they had limited sizes in petites.
One step left, one step right. That’s all it takes and you barely need to move from the starting point. Again, it’s about the love, not the technique.
The dress in 4313 also comes in a nice eggplant color. Would that work??
But really…at 5’ 3" see if you can find the dress in a petite size!
@Musicmom2015 , you just suck it up and do the sway back and forth. At least that’s what I did, trying not to cry. The grooms step dad played guitar and sang, and that made it more teary. I didn’t enjoy it, but did it for her.
@Consolation I think @frazzled1 looked at that dress in the blue.
Mother/son dance was a “clutch and sway”. Do it. You wont regret it.
Could you do mother/son dance at the same time as father/daughter dance? That way there’s 4 people on the floor, which feels a bit less pressure.
We did abbreviated parent/child dances and then did handoffs (I danced with my DILs father, she danced with my H, etc) We were never in the middle of a dance floor alone with lots of eyes on us. It was lower key, and fine.
Yes, @thumper1 - it was one of maybe 7 that I bought, and was among the 6 I sent back. I did think it was The One for a while.
Looking at the wedding photos, I now think I should have spent more time looking for a great strapless bra, since the dress I wound up in required one, and less time looking for a great dress.
@musicmom1215, DS indulged me and my treat. We took 2 swing dance lessons at an Arthur Murray studio. We only practiced to our song - Paul Simon’s Love Me Like a Rock. Both of my left feet did fine for those 90 seconds on wedding day.
D wants to have a dance with her father, and also a dance with me. I don’t expect any of us to get points for artistry!
Well I googled some mother/son dance song ideas and cried (and I mean ugly cry here at home…alone) through each one I listened to. Any happy song ideas? It’s best if the lyrics don’t mention mama. LOL
musicmom–I felt as you do. S didn’t particularly want to do the mother-son dance. He would’ve done it if I really wanted to. I was afraid I would cry, and I didn’t want to be put on the spot in front of a crowd that was 80% strangers. S lives thousands of miles away and there was no time to try it out. If the bride insisted we do this, we would’ve found a way, but she didn’t care. The thought of it was just too awkward and another thing to get stressed about, so we agreed to skip it. No regrets.
H and I don’t dance. We bought a Groupon for dance lessons, tried to practice at home a bit, but just couldn’t do it. H is even worse than I am. We were too embarrassed to go to the lessons! I do have a really close relationship with my son, but dancing together just isn’t “us.”
In spite of all that, I did spend some time considering potential songs. I’d like to hear what songs people used for their mother-son dance. (The song I picked was “Baby Mine”–the Alison Krauss version).
My ex (son’s father) and I used to dance a lot (country music–this is Texas) but we’ve been divorced 21 years. I was never good at dancing with anyone else, but he was/is an excellent dance partner. Believe me, its not really like riding a bicycle after all these years. I went to a friend’s son’s wedding a few months ago. Her husband asked me to dance and it was totally awkward. I felt like I had two left feet. Luckily, the dance floor was full so nobody was staring at JUST me, but it was embarrassing as my friend and her entire family are excellent dancers.
Plus, I really don’t want to cry. Son says I have to do it (he thought my resistance was a joke) so I will find a happy song and hopefully get him to practice with me.