@kelsmom since the place you are thinking of catering the shower doesn’t deliver, may I make another suggestion. Costco. You can buy everything you need for the shower in one trip. I did this for a party I had, with no time to do anything. I bought everything at Costco. They make sandwiches and party trays and cakes. It was the easiest party I’ve ever had.
That’s a great idea, @deb922! Thanks - I will check with my local Costco.
Is a Zoodle one of those spiralizers that turns zucchini into long noodles? Sounds fun!
@jym626 non physical gift: google Winemaker for a day and get a gift certificate. Many wineries have this and they can go in and blend, bottle and label their own wine. Suggest Raymond or Conn Creek. It’s a fun (and learning) outing plus they get to take something home to drink later. The wineries keep track of your blend…and if you want more, they have the formula.
OOh now THATS a GREAT idea!! Thanks!!
^ My DS and GF did this—and enjoyed very much!
I bought vegetarian g/f a vegetable all-clad pot ( actually insert to pot) and an asparagus/pasta pot, from W-s. I think these pots will left a life time. I’m still using my original Revere pots and pans, but I hope they can begin with real beauties.
@bookworm, will you adopt me? I asked for (and received)a set of all-clad for by 50th birthday. Until then, and even sometimes now, I used my RevereWare from when I was about 18. (I was an odd child -I asked for things like that as presents when I was young so I would be prepared when I needed them).
@Consolation, I like your list of gift suggestions.
She had never heard of All clad. It is my pleasure to spoil others.
I inherited my moms 10" lecrusent fry pan, in Orange. My sister decided to send it back to company, as it was so old and scarred. Lo and behold, they sent me a new one, Flame color, without a question. It was worth the postage. Such quality.
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Of course, I can’t complain about Reverware. I’ve been using it since my 20’s, and have no good reason to replace it.
What is a “vegetarian pot”?
A double broiler, but they promoted it for vegetables. Without the insert, it is still a practical pot.
Son and g/f enjoy cooking. They are taking cooking classes, and order thru Blue Apron. The g/f is vegetarian, and this was her request for a gift.
My BFF IS coming to DDs wedding. I’ve known this friend since we were 11 years old…and ther was some question whether she would be able to attend…or not. But she made her plane and hotel reservations today! I’m so happy she is coming!!
I understand your happiness - my BFF is coming to my D’s wedding, and I couldn’t be more thrilled. Her son got married in Europe at a time I absolutely could not go. It made me sad to miss celebrating with her, so I am extra-happy that she’ll be at D’s wedding.
Love reading about the lifelong friend reunions at weddings. BFF from kindergarten lives 1500 miles away, but her DS gets married one week ahead of our DD, one small state away. We will each be attending both weddings. Huzzah!
Lots of details rising to the surface for our almost summer wedding now. DD is sick, so I stepped up to help with many venue and vendor calls. Best news: in part due to the recommendations of others here, I booked a “day of” coordinator who has already gone above and beyond. She will bring 1 or 2 people with her to the wedding and attend the rehearsal, as well as offer any contact between now and the day. While the venue provides much assistance for the onsite ceremony, cocktail hour and dinner reception, there were some coverage gaps (due to where folks are staying, size of venue grounds, flower girls needing a day of run through, etc.). There is no doubt that the extra help will come in handy and it is great to know I won’t be texting to see if all the groomsmen are on their way. I was surprised at how much these coordinators provide over time, even as “day of/month of” packages. All contracts are reviewed, vendors contacted prior to, and tastings/design meetings can be attended if indicated. Best MOB gift ever.
Re: invitations- how much in advance of the wedding is the RSVP by date? Venue suggests at least 4 weeks, we are hoping for more like 6 weeks. Any thoughts?
We had the same conversation and settled on 4 weeks…the wedding was September 3 and the RSVP date was August 7. I had suggested six weeks, as well, but in retrospect, that timing was fine. Emailed “Save the Date” notices went out 6 months in advance so people had plenty of time to make travel plans and reservations, especially since it was a holiday weekend. Four weeks was enough for the couple and the families to go to the “back-up” list and, in the end, most everyone we all hoped would attend, did.
We are doing 4 weeks. Invites will be mailed 3 months ahead…so we don’t want folks having those RSVPs too long before sending them. They will just get forgotten…or lost!
My daughter and her husband had an RSVP date 6 weeks before their wedding. This gave them time to contract stragglers and still get the final count to the venue on time.
If you’re thinking about RSVP dates, you may want to check the date when the room block closes at your hotel (if you have a room block). In my daughter’s case, it closed a full month before the wedding. It made sense to have the RSVP date earlier than the date when the room block closed. I suspect most people didn’t learn about the room block until they visited the wedding website to RSVP. It would have been unfortunate if someone responded on time and then tried to book a room, only to discover that the room block was no longer available.
We sent out invitations to our upcoming brunch (engagement/baby event) about 3 weeks ago. Event is in a month. We put an RSVP day 2 weeks before the event and have so far only heard from maybe at most half the invitees (the honorees and family haven’t formally RSVP’d but I know they are coming). So far, not a SINGLE one of the young invitees (20/30 somethings) has RSVP’d. I wonder if they ever check their snail mail.
To keep it simple, we used the date the room block closed as the RSVP date, which is approximately one month bfore the wedding. The caterer and the rental place really only need a week’s advance notice, but time is needed to make seating arrangements and to follow up and call people whose RSVPs weren’t returned.
Probably not. This doesn’t occur to some young people. It must drive the court system crazy because they send out jury duty notices by snail mail. I wonder what they do when all these young people don’t respond. Do they send cops out to arrest all of them? That seems a little labor-intensive.