Sending good thoughts, @jym626. You deserve good karma for making this weekend happen for your family!
@jym626 - you were already a hero host. Fingers crossed that everything is a miracle and all the more appreciated. Something has to give in these circumstances… Hang in there.
Wow. Well, let’s just hope her flight isn’t delayed. Can YOU hire an uber to pick her up? Or a car service?
You know, those guys with signs standing at the end of the ramp. (Actually, do they even do that any more?)
All The record albums that my future daughter-in-law was going to go through 
What is it about these kids and vinyl? Hope that’s the extent of the irreparable damage.
@jym626 oh no! So sorry. Is that the basement level or main floor? (Lol…i don’t know what terrace level means)
Water won’t hurt the actual records, just the covers. Of course, album covers are part of their charm.
What a mess!
At least, IIRC, you have a caterer for the brunch?
Oh, no!!! Is the wine fridge ok???
Thankfully the wine cellar is fine. But the albums… some aren’t.
terrace level is the basement
The brunch is about 2/12 weeks away… Will have to get it all back together!
A question about tables- at the venue my S is using they have round tables available for 100. They would need to rent extra tables and the linens. S and his fiancé prefer to rent long wood farm style tables. My D is also considering farm style tables for her wedding. The wood tables are pretty but they are a lot more expensive to rent. I love the look of the wood tables and you don’t need a table cloth but I don’t know if the look is worth it. Any opinions?
@mom60 I guess it would depend on the difference in price - extra tables and linens for round vs. cost of renting wood tables. I do like the look of the family style wood tables. It would also depend on where they are in their budget overall and weighing that vs other wants to create the look and style of wedding they hope to achieve.
@mom60 -Lots to consider here as a very long farm table can beautiful and dramatic. Yet, it can also become a room divider in some spaces, perhaps impacting traffic flow and the chance to socialize, as well as the ability to “take in” the room as a guest seated in the middle. Also, conversation may be different at a long table. Visually, It can be very nice to have a focal point and break up a room full of round tables.
We are about to confirm the table lay out with the venue and are considering a defined row of several square tables, under a row of chandeliers down the center. The square tables will seat 8; the round tables will seat 10. The row of square tables will have different flowers than the rounds; tall arrangements to define the row, use some of the extra height down the center of the space, and play off the lighting. Some would prefer long farm tables with garlands down the center. Our florist was very helpful with considering the pros and cons, which could vary a lot, depending upon the space.
If you actually put 10 people at a round, they each have very little space.
My daughter’s venue had a limit of 60 because the room could only fit six rounds. She and her fiance invited between 50 and 55 people, and the final guest count was about 45. This meant that, theoretically, they could eliminate one of the six rounds and put people at only five tables. But we were advised not to do this. We were told that it would be more comfortable to spread people out – seven or eight to a round table. And this turned out to be good advice. I was at a table that had seven people, and it felt normal and comfortable. Ten would have felt like a sardine can.
@Marian- think these rounds may be a larger size; thanks for the head’s up to double check.
Our venue has round tables and I’ve seen them set for 10. That being said…I think most of our tables will be 7 or 8.
Our venue was rectangular and quite long. MOB had a mix of long and round tables which worked quite well. My only advice, if you use long tables, regardless of the length, is to consider the seating. The people in the middle have others on each side, whereas those on the end only have one person next to them with whom to socialize. Also, if there are particular people who should be seated in a particular place at a long table, consider place cards, not just table cards. Guests did mention that they liked the look of the room with the combination of long and round - looked less like a fundraiser or banquet.
For some reason, our S put one couple, friends of ours, at the long table with the wedding party (including the bride’s parents and us) and the four of us ended up at the end of the table, furthest away from the B & G. Our S came to ask us to move down by them but understood when we said we wouldn’t leave these friends (my H’s best friend from college and is wife) alone with S’s much younger friends. In the end, no one sat much, but it could have been handled better. B & G had no idea what they were doing and it was just one of those details MOB didn’t consider or care about.
Right. Depends on table size. 10 at an 8 person round (60" diam?) can be fine while 10 at a table designed for 6 is tough. But the other issue is who gets to sit with whom. If it’s open seating, you don’t want a couple to find no deuces available and have to sit apart.
Question for some of you who have or are giving money for the wedding. I am pay for most of the wedding and am giving D1 cash for it. Would it be regarded as a gift and be limited to 15K/year (I am a single parent)? I have already given her some money last year, and the remainder would be more than 15K. How did you handle it?