But gray? Do many people look good in gray? I sure wouldn’t. And even if you do, is it the first color many would gravitate to of their own free will?
There are some nice sort of silver grey dresses out there. TBH, I personally look a LOT better in grey than in beige!
Well, beige is so…beige. I’d put both towards the bottom. Silver is a little better but the post above stated dark gray and I don’t think that is silver.
Just got back from son’s wedding! Couldn’t have asked for things to go any better or be happier!
Yep! My dress was beige/grey/silver–hard to tell at times–it depended on the lighting–but it had some sparkle so didn’t feel “boring” and got a ton of compliments. I did splurge on some great shoes.
I figured my " job" was to blend in the pictures without looking like a bridesmaid or “odd man out” so it was perfect. No way was I going to be “that” MIL! It wasn’t about me in the least.
“It always seems that many weddings and funerals turn out to be s*** shows. Too many relatives, too much stress.”
Many of our guests actually commented on how great the vibe was and how everyone got along with no “drama” evident. It was simply a great time had by all. (I was actually surprised by the number of comments on this).
But there was a good reason. In limiting the guest list, neither family invited “drama” to the wedding. This wedding was to be about the bride and groom, a celebration of love and family-- and if you didn’t seem to get that based on history–you didn’t get invited. Worked out well!
Maybe she’s going for a palette, soft fall colors that work together. Or shades. I think lavender with slate blue will be very pretty.
Checking back in with a weekend update… if I can stay awake! It was a fabulous weekend! There were a few mishaps ( e.g., one of DS#1’s suitcases got left at the airport with all the shuffling of the baby stuff and who had what) but fortunately DS#2 was able to retrieve it. All the flights got in ok, and the weather, which started out lightly drizzly and chilly (50’s) Sat. morning, cleared enough that people were able to go outside (where we had a 10X10 tent on the deck over the table), and had a patio heater which we ultimately were able to turn off).
The caterers exceeded every expectation. The food was massive, the presentation exquisite and the staff wonderful. The bartender was an absolute riot! And, for any football fans, his father was a former Green Bay Packer! Can’t say enough great things about them. If anyone is in my area, PM me and I will give you their names.
The real prize was the cake, which was not only a piece of art, but unbelievably delicious- a rich chocolate pound cake. The photo does not do it justice as it cut off the bottom half so you cant see the whole thing or the detail (or the back side) but it was styled in the shape of a champagne bucket with a bottle of champagne, ice cubes and a napkin draped over it, placed on a beautiful base with ribbons on either side with the congratulatory message to the happy couple on one side and welcoming the new grandbaby on the other). I have placed a photo as my avatar, but it was really much more spectacular than this photo depicts. The baker had made an additional, smaller cake to cut up first and serve so we didnt have to cut into the main cake (which was the centerpiece).
The house was absolutely packed, I have no idea how many were here. There were several last minute cancels and no-shows, but also several who came who never RSVP’d and one who brought a date! (Really not appropriate for this kind of event… and he didn’t ask either).
I did too good a job letting the younger folk know there would be a big crowd and to encourage people to spread out to outside or downstairs, and for a while several retreated to the basement . Had to get DS#2 and his fiancee up to greet people who were here to see them! DS#1 wore grandbaby in an ergo much of the time as she was sleeping for probably half the time. Having fiancee’s family here was a lot of fun. It was great to get to know all of them and they don’t all get a chance to get together all that often, so they really appreciated the time together.
The shower was lovely. There were a few big/heavy gifts from William Sonoma or BB&B and they (DS and fiancee) ended up returning them here and then ordering them to be shipped to their apt so didnt have to carry them back. The rest of the gifts that both they and the grandbaby got were packed successfully in suitcases that they were able to take back (DS#1 flew SWA so brought an extra bag for the gifts).
The biggest problem was that DH sat on the corner of one of the borrowed air mattresses last night and it popped. So we had to go to Frontgate and order a replacement for the person we borrowed from. I will order a repair kit but dont think its fixable. Anyone have any luck fixing an air mattress rip air the site of a leg?
All in all it was a wonderful weekend that flew by too fast! Most of the sheets and towels are washed but the beds aren’t put back together yet… Just no energy right now.
Fiancee’s mom decided to fly back with one of her daughters early this morning and let us have the day with DS#2,wife and baby before they had to leave this afternoon. Because she has free flight privileges she will try to fly in for a day and we will go dress shopping another time (when we have lost the weight we gained this weekend!). That turned out to be very helpful.
Sorry this is so long, but wanted to report back in.
@jym626, it all sounds wonderful! It’s almost like your smile shines through in the telling. I suspect that over the next few days, as you put your house back together and think back you’ll find even more to smile about. So glad you got some unexpected grand baby time, as well.
Lovely. Happy for you and the whole jym clan. Great pic. xx
thanks, @runnersmom and @lookingforward
So nice to hear about the 2 weddings! Congratulations!
Any updates on your festivities @rebeccar ?
Invites got mailed this morning. I did pay extra to have them hand stamped. This meant adding an additional (ugly) stamp to each invite…but it was better than worrying they would get mangled in the machine stamper.
@SOSConcern Things are stable on our end! Not sure when I last updated, but I got a new dress. I haven’t showed a single person except for my mom, and don’t plan to until the day of the wedding. My mom got a dress too, which is exciting. We picked a photographer and are meeting with florists this weekend. My biggest stress right now is his family’s guest list. A few weeks ago, my fiance asked his parents when their list would be ready, and they said “in a few months.” Whaaaaaaatttttt. We’ve been engaged since last May, what the heck is taking so long. Invites need to be ordered soon, and I’m also really unconvinced that their guest list is going to be the size that it needs to be, so it’ll require further edits once they actually do it. I’m anxiously waiting for that to get done. I’m also a little nervous that we’re going to send out invitations and then they won’t pay for all the people they said they’re going to pay for, but I guess I’m getting ahead of myself now. No emergency situation yet 
@rebeccar I’d suggest giving them a firm deadline (a few weeks before you really need them). If it is uncomfortable for you to do so, your parents should step in and play “bad cop” on this.
@doschicos yeah, I’ve been loving the strategy of putting the blame on everything else. Sorry, the room only holds 325! Sorry, the invite company needs them by this date! Sorry, the venue is not going to let us do that thing!
I’m excited for the invites we do have picked out. Tomorrow I’m going with my mom to try on veils and headbands. I’m home this week for president’s break so we’re getting a lot done! We even finished our wedding website / registry. Everything is really coming together.
Your inlays have no respect for boundaries. You will need to be firm. " I have so many invitations, ready to be addressed, and no more." You must get money up front or you will never see it.
Agree–get the money up front or it will mysteriously never appear. Sad but true.
Your fiance’ needs to play a role. If they say they are paying for X amount over, as they say, get the $ upfront. Again future H needs to play the role. They can be ‘mad’ about various things, but they won’t stay mad at him.
I agree your fiancé needs to be the man and get them to pay up front and meet deadlines and stay within the numbers alotted. It is his family and he knows how to work with his family.
For anyone in search of flower girl dresses Costco has some really cute ones for just 15.99. I am assuming they are in stock for Easter.