Two months out, we got the final count. Everyone has RSVP. We are at 165, which was the target. I didn’t even have to do any chase. 
Woohoo @oldfort
Wow, you have cooperative guests! Congratulations, @oldfort. Amazing how the time flies…
Way to go, @oldfort!! Great news!!
Well, we are less than 3 mos out and (a) not sure they (DS and FDIL) have ordered their invitations yet, (b) they haven’t picked the location of the rehearsal dinner so I can’t do invitations (don’t get me started) and © DH asked me to stop watching airfares and just go ahead and book the flights to/from their wedding. Well, I fell asleep and woke up at 2 am this morning. Unable to get back to sleep, I decided that was a fine time to book tickets (note to self- do not do this again at 2 am). I booked the tix and seats, then re-looked at the airline website and thought I saw a better fare, so booked a second set of tix/seats and cancelled the first. Fortunately I noticed that they were cheaper because I had picked PM instead of AM outbound flights, so I booked a THIRD set of tickets/seats and cancelled the second set. Got all the confirmation and cancellation emails, and will watch for all the extra “pending” charges do drop off.
Oh, and did I mention that a month before their wedding DS is being sent on a business trip to China for 2 weeks?!?!
We are getting closer…I think it’s 52 more days!
We set our RSVP return for May 1…so they are trickling in. I think we know most of the people who are coming. There are already a few who were definitely NOT coming (told us this when the Save the dates were sent) who have changed their minds and are coming.
We invited 153 including the bride and groom, and so far we only have 6 NO RSVPs. But some haven’t responded at all.
I think we will be at 125 or so when all is said and done. Stay tuned!
Meeting to set the menu for the night before meet and greet, and the morning after breakfast…tomorrow.
@jym626, I think that you really need to have a showdown with your S and FSIL over these things. Explain to them that you are enable to sleep because of the stress and ask them to make some decisions for your sake. In a nice way. 
That will not fly with them, @consolation,
That will not fly with them, @consolation.
Going to a wedding in CO this summer. Booked the accommodations using the bridal party discount. Looked tonight online and it’s $238.02 cheaper online! Feeling burned. Is this common?
That’s a huge difference! If it’s for the same type of room, I would call the hotel and ask. $15 or so I wouldn’t open my mouth but for that much I definitely would.
Also, jym, are you my mom? I can practically feel the stress radiating off of her that we haven’t ordered our invitations yet.
It took around 6 weeks for D1’s invitations to be printed, so make sure you leave enough time.
I took my dress to be fitted at a local dry cleaner. The owner told me originally it would be $45, then it was $70 and finally $120. Ok, I was unhappy but was fine it because I just wanted it done right. When I went back to try it on I noticed the underlying layers (there were 5 layers) were uneven. When I pointed it out to the owner, he told me that I was “seeing things.” I had to get customers in the store to confirm. He finally conceded maybe it was a bit off. He promised to fix it with me telling him to make sure not trim the other side because I liked the length. I went to pick it up tonight. Lucky for him the dress looks fine.
Jym, do you need them to choose a location? Is it possible the stress is getting to them? Could you just make initial inquiries at the hotel you’ll be at? (In the old days, didn’t the groom’s parents lead this decision?) There’s only so much you can do from across the country. Hugs.
@jym626 - I was worried that my S and fiancé haven’t finalized their invitations. Wedding not till late September so I should not stress. I am paying for rehearsal dinner or at least I’ve offered so assuming that I am. I have no clue what they are thinking. I know the place since it’s at the venue and I know they picked a menu but little else.
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We have 10 days and I’m doing ridiculous things like paint touch ups around the house. I need to stop and go chill somewhere!
Sent out almost all the checks. The band wants a cashier’s check or cash. Should I give them cash? In all singles, lol?
D is having flight drama. Her seat assignment was dropped, along with her Comfort+ status. She’s been on hold for more than an hour. Sigh…
Flight guy got her figured out! Let’s hope it lasts.
I have to say, I wouldn’t do the hotel block thing again. We are in a city with lots of options so the guests have choice. The vast majority would rather go with their choice rather than the hotel block.
We had to put down $500 and we won’t get it back until everyone leaves, in case anyone cancels. We need to fill at least 80%, but we were short one night for one room. I asked if it mattered, since most people were staying a few extra nights. They don’t know. Then someone tried to join the block, but I’m not sure it counts now.
Generally, it’s not worth the hassle.
We had a really good experience with hotel, for a combination of reasons – primarily they are heavy with business people M - Th; groom’s parents had negotiated hotel with S1’s wedding, and were able to get free valet parking (which is normally $10/night). Couple had enough hotel guests for free night in a suite, and some of their friends were able to stay at their apts. Hotel was really nice, and reasonable for upscale. Had wonderful truly hot/buffet breakfasts, and got to talk to lots of folks the two mornings over the weekend.
What made the wedding much lower stress for us was that it was in THEIR city and mostly their friends, with only some family and a few of our friends.
Wedding was not over-priced, but IMHO was the nicest wedding - right up there with H and mine!
@rebeccar - the invitations need to be MAILED in a few weeks at the latest. They have a planner who should be th done nagging them.
^ should be the one nagging them