Who knew there were so many different ways to start a wedding. I wonder who escorted my mom down the aisle when I married? No remembrance of this part
Anything goes these days. Whatever the bride and the groom want is good.
FOG is not singing…he is playing the organ or keyboard. DS is playing the trumpet. We think.
MOG will be escorted by her younger son who is an usher.
I’ll get down the aisle. No problem!
I have no idea who escorted my mom or my MIL down the aisle (it’s been 35 years & a lot has happened in between). It wasn’t anyone in the bridal party, I don’t think. I do have 4 brothers who helped pass out programs and greet people as they came into the church, but were not in the wedding party, so maybe one of them?
D mentioned something the other day about what song her FMIL and I would be walking up the aisle to, but I never thought to ask who would be escorting us. FMIL’s son is in the wedding party, so I don’t know if they will or won’t have him escort his mom. I would love to have my S escort me down the aisle, but he doesn’t like to be in the spotlight. D will handle things whatever way she wants, and I will be fine with whatever she decides.
Hmm. Wonder what D is thinking about escorts out. I don’t object to my ex-H doing it if that is what D wants.
@scout59 if it were your own child telling you “this is how we want this to be” then I would be quick to tell you to let it go and let the bride and groom decide. In the big picture, it doesn’t seem like the kind of detail to argue about. But to have the bride and groom be swayed by “someone at the church telling them this is the right way to do this” is a totally different situation. I think the correct wording for you to your child is “I don’t think that is the correct etiquette. But really, how do you want this to play out? Who do YOU want to escort me?”
We just ordered our invitations for D’s August wedding. I wanted to order them, oh, a month ago, but the company they liked, A Printable Press, went on “spring break” for weeks and weren’t accepting new orders during that time. This uptight mother was seriously worried. I hope they can turn it around quickly, as I’d like to have these things out the door by mid-May. I’ve given July 5 as the RSVP date, and in addition to response cards, we’re also printing the URL for their wedding website on them so people have no excuse not to respond. Receiving an invitation is a privilege, not an imposition!
@millermomm Navy is a neutral, and as such, I think it’s fine if you wear it. It’s one of my favorite colors, which is why I forbade myself to wear it for D’s wedding. Everything I own is navy. But my MOB dress is still blue, though! 
@scout59 , I’ve also seen both the MOB and FOB walk their daughter down the aisle. I have no idea what D and FSIL are doing. They haven’t told me yet. Is D walking alone? with her dad? with both of us? No idea! But I think that if I am not walking D down the aisle, I’d like my son to walk me. That’s the most common arrangement.
@runnersmom , I love the Jewish tradition of both parents walking their kid down the aisle! I hope D and FSIL do it that way, but they are Catholic, so who knows?
My D2’s wedding was about 2 weeks ago and I feel like I’ve just about come up for air.
Here’s the drama: it had to be postponed due to severe weather. Threats of tornadoes, flash floods, and heavy rain. The tent people called it, and the venue said they would appreciate if we changed the day. We had planned for Saturday from about 5 - 10 PM but instead we changed to Sunday from 10:30 AM - about 2:30 PM. The venue is a botanical garden that only allows weddings after they close so of course they didn’t have anything scheduled for a Sunday morning. The vendors were all available the next morning, which was just miraculous, and we didn’t need the tents then anyway, lol.
The wedding planner called D2, but asked to speak to me, and she had already cleared all the vendors to be OK for the next morning. Bless her! D2 took her two best friends to confer and decided about 10 minutes later. The bridal party had been getting hair and makeup done and we stopped where we were and had them come back the next morning. At 5 AM!
D2 wanted to have a little party that night for the 3 or so people who couldn’t make it the next day, and their friends. That ended up being about 50 people! In my house! We had stocked up on wine and cheese and beverages, and had extra trays of food from the rehearsal dinner so it was OK. I walked around with a little bell at 10:30 PM and asked everyone to leave since we had to get up so early.
The next day was brilliantly sunny and a little cooler than usual, just like it usually is after a storm. The resurrection ferns had popped up after getting all that rain and D2 got to walk down an aisle that was velvety and green and dappled with sunlight. We were in a rose garden for the ceremony. The bride and groom hadn’t seen each other and both were crying as she approached him. The vows they wrote for each other were just beautiful, and everyone was very emotional. I would not have wanted to share my feelings publicly at that age, and maybe not even now, but it was amazing to witness. The officiant was great, and she asked everyone to put away their devices during the ceremony but my MIL recorded it all anyway. I can always count on her!
The reception went well, and it all went by really, really fast. I wish I had had more time to relax and enjoy seeing everyone but that is just about impossible as MOB. My sister and her daughters just left a few days ago, and I’m still sad about that, but we had a wonderful time together.
Happy weddings everyone!
It sounded wonderful. It is great when you have a planner who could make it happen and have a bride who didn’t have a melt down.
Speaking of devices, D1 is going to ask everyone not to have their devices out during the ceremony too. She doesn’t want pictures of everyone holding a smartphone taking pictures. I just wonder if others have done the same. Did you put up a sign and how did you handle it?
D wants a no-devices wedding. I don’t know if she plans to do a sign or what … at the least, I imagine she’ll ask the minister to say something (although she will have walked down the aisle by that time). I would like to find a way to record it for my FIL, who can’t be there, so someone is going to have to have a device.
Yes, a lot of people took photos while the bridal party was walking down. That was OK. We didn’t have a videographer so I’m grateful to MIL, but also grateful to the officiant for asking people to put their devices away.
D2 set up a google photo sharing album for everyone to upload any photos or videos to and that has been nice to look at. I’m not sure when we will have the official photographs from the photographer. Can’t wait! This is the easy part.
Also - it was really fun to find out that the groom and many of his friends just love to dance!
My daughter does not want phones out before or during the ceremony. But I think she is expecting folks to take those hashtag pics at the reception.
Maybe I need to get a ncice tasteful sign done!
@kelsmom my inlaws were not able to attend my nephews wedding. On SIL used an IPAD to record. She was in the front row, center…and was the only one with a device. But that was essential as is your situation.
@greenwitch your wedding sounds like it was terrific, even with the one day delay. You had a fabulous wedding planner!!
Maybe you all could have something printed on the program? The first line, in bright ink so everyone sees it.
I have seen no photos listed on the programs, and also the officiant or wedding planner announce it before the bridal party going down the aisle.
Our officiant asked the guests to “be in the moment” and put their devices away. Judging by the wedding pictures, her request went unheeded by many 
i don’t think anyone, least of all the bride & groom, noticed. They did have a wedding hashtag and consolidated all the pictures posted on Instagram.
Glad it all worked out in the end! You came through hosting all those people that night. I’m sure it was memorable for all. Glad you had a wedding planner that was so good at doing her job!
Did you wind up having to spend a lot extra with the move to the next day?
I like the idea of the officiant asking for no devices. I think people are more likely to comply hearing it from “the person in charge” of the ceremony than they would just with signs or a note in the wedding program.
No clear memory of who escorted whom down aisle, as it really didn’t matter to me. It probably was my eldest brother who was an usher and groomsman who walked my mom as MOB down the aisle. I’m sure dad didn’t do laps (big church) and groom stood at front of church not escorting anyone. Parents of groom walked together. I’m sure my dad walked me (and each of my sisters when they were brides) down the aisle.