We found the restaurant that will cater the rehearsal dinner for the Oct wedding. We are having it on the front lawn of the bride’s parents home and it will be lovely. There will be 80-100 guests because we both have large families and the bridal party is large. All of their plans are coming together and there is no drama that I’m aware of. I found a dress from Nordstrom, sent it to my D who moonlights as my stylist and she said order it immediately. It fit and all I have to do is find shoes and have it hemmed. Whew! I’m divorced and my ex has had an unfortunate relationship with the kids since and it’s all of his doing. My D is highly doubtful he will come (he didn’t come to her college graduation last year). It weighs on me because I don’t want him to disrupt the weekend and yet I can’t imagine not having your father at your wedding. My S is pretty stoic about it and he hates any drama. Fortunately I have a very supportive family who are traveling across the country from FL to CA to be there.
@rom828 - I am divorced also. My kid didn’t want to invite their dad’s SO to the wedding and he wasn’t too happy about it. I was concerned it would be awkward, but both of us walked her down the aisle, everyone was on their best behavior and everything went off without any drama. I did everything I could to be pleasant, which included keeping any negativity out whenever I had to interact with my ex because it was all about my D that weekend. I think if your ex were to come, mostly likely he will behave and be there for your daughter. I was very apprehensive before the wedding, so I know how you feel.
Thank you @oldfort. I followed your story and all others where parents behaviors are uncertain. It’s my S who is getting married and is inviting his dad with few expectations. I can only hope that he comes and it’s a non event. I would have never guessed I’d have this concern. People do change.
Today was rehearsal at church followed by casual buffet dinner. AC is out at our church and repairs are in the works. Ceremony and reception at church on Saturday.
Mom and step dad of groom hosted lovely dinner. Mom gave opening welcome and remarks to the couple, and before dessert my husband gave a tribute/toast to the couple. Given the AC issue, i was suprised how relaxed i was at dinner.
Tomorrow is reception setup at church and a team of bakers and cooks in the kitchen. Followed by a game night and meet and greet at our neighborhood clubhouse.
Feeling really good tonight. Happy for Our D and her fiance.
That’s hysterical, @doschicos. Thanks for sharing it.
I’m glad things are going well so far, @powercropper. I hope you enjoy a wonderful weekend.
@doschicos - thanks for the laugh
Good luck and weather to all of today’s weddings!
Wedding in less than a month. I am determined that our next phone call focuses on positive thoughts, other activities, and never even once brings up that recurring point of contention.
Also, feeling like a failure for the lack of weight loss.
Need help finding an airtight container to fit the wedding cake top in for freezing. Will not wait a year to eat it, but bride and groom live an hour away and want us to freeze it for now. Cake is 5 1/2 inches tall and about 7 inches wide.
Wedding was all we wanted and more. Weather great, crowd not as many as expected, so space was not as tight. Almost all Family we wanted were able to attend, ceremony went smoothly, and the many babies and children in attendance were well behaved.
The bridesmaids and the groomsmen were all very involved in set up and clean up, and the MOH was on top of protecting bride, being right there to take care of everything, she even had an entire backpack full of every possible thing needed.
Most importantly, I was able to relax and enjoy being present. Only tears were watching my H and my D walk down the aisle. I completely shocked all my friends and family with my unusually calm demeanor. It truly was a happy day!
Power cropper, I’m so happy all went even better than expected.
I have no idea about the cake, other than to wrap it a few times and put in 2 freezer bags.
@powercropper it sounds wonderful.
We have the top layer of the cake in a Tupperware container in our freezer. I’m quite sure it’s going to be fine whenDD and SIL get here at the same time…in July…to have it. Ours is a square container…about 8x8 and about 6 inches high.
@powercropper congratulations!
@stradmom be kind to yourself 
Agree you need to wrap the cake tight and use bags. You don’t want moisture to accumulate on the cake.
Check out my Profile Picture for the cutest dessert a friend made for D’s wedding. I won’t leave it up very long since it is personalized. Sugar cookies iced and marked like Scrabble letters. Additional Round cookies had wedding date iced on them, and heart shaped cookies had scripture referenced phrases.
D and my new SIL are waiting a week before honeymoon vacation (my H is calling it a Gap Week) so i have gotten a few messages from her today.
Daughter: what is dress code for grandparents anniversary party?
Me: No clue. I suppose i will just wear the same (casual) dress i wore to your wedding.
Daughter: I probably shouldn’t wear the same dress I wore to my wedding!
@stradmom – you aren’t a failure!!! but I totally get how at month +10 we set goals we never reached before, at +6 we think “there’s still time, I can do this” but every day after 3 months to go we’re just “I need a piece of cake to get through the seating chart”
DH caught me moping in my MOG attire. He just laughed and said honey, I’m gonna cry so much nobody will have time to stop gawking and look at how gorgeous you are. And he will, he cries at commercials!
Invites mailed today!
Going in with head held high, stomach held in (possibly with assistance), and love in my heart for my son and his lovely bride.
All other baggage to be left behind. (At least, that’s the plan.)