@fretfulmother, as a fellow MOG who has become more involved in details than I’d like if I don’t have any real control, I’d say what do the B & G think? Is it important to them? Did you see an actual sample in the lavender? If so, and if this isn’t it, the company should replace immediately. The only aesthetic reason I can see for caring is if the bluish cast clashes with other decor at the reception. If it’s clear, it likely doesn’t and it’s probably fine.
@runnersmom this is for the groom’s side reception and the B and G had no part in the selection. I saw photos on Amazon and this was definitely the wrong one sent. But to exchange would involve at least an hour of my time to deal with it…
If it’s the vendor’s fault, request a replacement.
Sounds like it would be well worth your time to get it replaced if you are questioning the color at all. What is a “groom’s side reception.”
It was the compromise because the bride’s side didn’t want to hold a reception of what we considered reasonable size.
It’s a bit after the marriage.
Agree with @doschicos and @sevmom. If the vendor made a mistake, why should you settle? It would drive me nuts and my eye would be drawn to it but YMMV. If you ordered it from Amazon, just call. Sometimes they will send out the right item and tell you to just keep the other.
Ok ok 
I just sent a message because I’m not where I can call. I’ll keep you guys posted.
You can return amazon items to kohl’s now if you can get the right color figured out. I haven’t used it but I hear you don’t even have to box things up, just bring them.
But ugh to them being the wrong color.
So the seller wrote back that it’s how they might look “in natural light” which is false and annoying and has spurred me to care more than I did. I will send them a photo when I get back from work…
And thank you all for the help/advice!
Ya, be strong. Tell,them you will be sure to note this in your review. At the very least, get 10–20% discount.
Yes, Kohl’s return for Amazon is easy peasy. I had to return something to Amazon recently. I did have the box it came in and could have just printed the label and dropped it at UPS but decided to try Kohl’s. I had my refund on my credit card in 2 days! You don’t need to have the box or pack it up. They will do that.
Congrats to everyone on the weddings!
Any advice on destination weddings in Mexico? My S has just gotten engaged and they are thinking destination to keep the size down …
I have never been to Mexico and it’s not on my bucket list – but I will go where ever this wedding will be! The B and G are going to Mexico in March to check out venues. I want to have some ideas to pass on to them. Our side is pretty much all New Englanders – the brides side is pretty much all Los Angeles.
Do they have a area of Mexico in mind? Big country.
San Miguel de Allende is a popular destination for weddings with some interesting and colorful customs such as a wedding parade with big puppets.
Puerto Vallarta and Tulum have been mentioned. So west coast and Yucatan …
@cnp55 Congratulations! Check travel advisories for Mexico. Some areas seem safer than others.
DDs dress arrived yesterday. She tried it on today and it fits perfect!! Yes!! They are working on table assignments. Looks like final number is 132. Trying to figure out how to communicate table assignments to guests. Escort cards? Chart? Both?
DD and fiancé bought a house and close escrow in two weeks (6 weeks before the wedding). So have added quite a few things to their registry. Lots happening!!!
We had 136 for D’s wedding. She did a chart. She had someone on Etsy put the chart together, then she sent the file to FedEx Office where they printed it out in large format. With a reception of your size, I think a chart is all you should need. If you had a large crowd, it can be tough to get to the chart & find your place; in that case, escort cards are helpful.
The wedding I went to last weekend (130) had a 16x24 chart on an easel, alphabetized by last name with table number after your name. Then, at the table, a card had been tucked in the napkin with your first name showing. Easy for people to move along pretty quickly.
I knew no one at this wedding besides the bride, her parents, the maid of honor, and my daughter who was a bridesmaid. I was seated next to the mother of the bride. So honored, and we had a delightful conversation!
D1 is also thinking of a chart- but you need some way to tell you where to look on the chart. I think the easier weddings we attended had our surnames in alpha order somewhere (a list or cards laid out,) with the table number. Then the chart was used to find where the table was.
Other than some nips and tucks, the obvious issue with D1’s dress is it’s about 4" too long. I understand that.
If Mexico holds some special appeal, it can make sense. But I agree about looking into travel advisories. (Even so, it seems trouble is unpredictable.) I’d think you’d want the simplest in and out of the location, no long, complicated drives from/to the airport, eg. Maybe arrangements so that transport is during the daylight hours, not late. And with any destintion wedding, I think we all know how important the right wedding planner can be.
And if one side’s family is in LA, will it truly cut down on the number who come? It’s a lot easier to fly in from there than New England.
@cnp55 FWIW, for your S & FDIL to consider:
my D and her college pals were considering a get together this year as they all turn 30. Mexico was suggested…but a number of the girls begged off, citing zika concerns.
Would this potentially affect any of their close family or friends?