Well, it looks like it will be a Labor Day Weekend 2017 wedding! Kids saw the venue yesterday and are so excited to move forward. Contracts will be signed this week and then they can move on the many other details that will pop up on a regular basis when the event is a mere (!) 9 months away. Today they’re off to look at apartments - in addition to planning a wedding they think it’s a great idea to add buying an apartment to the mix. It’s going to be a wild ride of a year!
Ok…I’m sneaking in here. We are working o picking a date in April 2018…then will book the venue!
Congratulations @thumper1! Around here, as we found, the venue sometimes dictates the date.
Well…as of right now…the day of the week…in the month we want…is not booked.
Stay tuned!!
Wedding dress is ordered and had a 10% discount (evidently a slower time for orders, so glad for the discount!). Getting pricing and length determination on a veil with the matching lace. Dress is to her measurements, so hope to not have any needed alterations…
http://ameliasposa.it/catalog/item-94/
DD took care of order, just used my credit card. Hope it is all wonderful.
Ok…my very first question as the MOB. What would you do if your family and friend list was 60 or so…and the groom’s was…are you ready…15. And that includes the grooms family.
@thumper1 you have people seated at both sides of the church so it is all good. Do the couple have a lot of friends? We have not seen the list yet, or how the budget will work out. We do expect to have as many as the groom’s parents - but we can invite more or invite less, depending on what the couple wants. It is their budget and their wedding.
^ thumper…if that was me, I’d be doing the happy dance!
Numbers can change…
Service will be at the venue. I just feel funny inviting 60 something…and the groom’s family inviting 15.
The couple is inviting about 40-50 friends.
We are paying the full bill (with a budget). So it’s not like the groom’s family is paying for anything. But still…that’s a lopsided number of guests.
I wouldn’t worry about it, @thumper1. Some people have bigger families, closer geographically, etc. It’s not that unusual to have uneven numbers on the bride’s and groom’s side of the family. My own wedding was that way as well as a good number I’ve been to.
We have the opposite. I think we have 30 something from the bride’s side and 60-80 (I think) from groom’s side, and I am paying, but there is no way to cut the groom’s side because they just have a large family. On the other hand, bride has a lot more friends than the groom. I think we would just have people sit where they want during the ceremony.
I think we have a venue. 
No tent building, will be temperature controlled.
thumper- If the bride and groom don’t have a problem with it, don’t worry. Are you supposed to invite fewer to balance it out or should they find strangers to invite? Of course, not.
@SOSConcern Love that dress, love the neckline. (That and that lace are what I had and what D2 chose.)
Thumper, that was my wedding…my in laws had about 20 invites out of 150. DH and I really didn’t have to worry about which friends to include. Everyone felt they included everyone they wanted.
Thumper, I said earlier in the thread that the groom’s family was 11 and ours was around 60 - just family, for the guest list. About half of our family made it and all of his.
@thumper1 - as long as the bride and groom are okay with the numbers of guests/family, I don’t think it matters. My D is getting married in early 2018, and there was an issue (already!) about the guest list - her FMIL wanted to invite way more people than the couple wanted to. It’s been resolved (thankfully), but even so, I expect that the groom’s family will exceed our family by about 4:1.
It’s all good, as long as the bride and groom are happy (and of course, as long as the budget is happy too.)
But my news is - they have a date, a church, and a reception venue, all finalized and reserved. Yay!!
I agree. Our guest list issues were actually resolved by the bride and groom. They decided how big a wedding they want (and can be accommodated by the venue) and split the number 50/50. It is up to each side to figure out how to allocate those invitations which was especially difficult since both come from large families and each came to the relationship with many close friends of long standing, most of whom are married or in long term relationships. Since they met after 30, each has their own friend circle - with very little overlap. We think everyone is now in agreement and though there are a few whose feelings may be hurt at not being invited, it’s the best result possible.
We had about 60, married in DH’s long time family church. Though it was across the country from where we were living (as were my mother, brother, grandmother,) it made sense as my family was originally from nearby and DH and I had lived in that area, so I was also familiar with that church. It had more sentimental attachment.
Thumper’s question reminds me that the only folks from my family side were those 3, a couple who were my mother’s long time friends from the neighborhood I grew up in and my college roommate and her SO. DH had a larger family (aunts and uncles,) plus his mother’s closest friends (also people we liked, were happy to include,) then we had our mutual friends who still lived nearby. As long as everyone feels part of the celebrations, things work out. We did send invitations to a much larger number (to include folks where we were then living.) That was to let them feel included.
Thanks all. I just don’t want the future inlaws to feel funny about this event.
Right now it looks like 65 invites on our side…family and friends, 15 on the groom’s side…and about 45 friends. I hope we can meet the minimum number of guests 85…because we are paying for 85 whether we have that many…or not.
^ thumper, I would be happy to have a minimum to meet. Suspect my D & FSIL will have opposite problem: getting close to their maximum guests… 