<p>OP I understand your frustration and pain, but speaking from experience I have to say , your son is probably going through pain, frustration and a feeling of being misunderstood himself. The first priority should be getting him the help , support and treatment he needs to get better. I strongly caution you not to use language like “he wasted our money” " he blew it at college" or “he’s too immature”. I’m sure you are just venting on CC and thats fine, but if he feels accused, blamed or criticized by his family it can have bad consequences. Again I’m not saying this is the case in your family, but having seen someone go through something similar recently I feel its very important. I agree with the above poster who said that at this time your son needs compassion, patience and an assurance that you love him no matter what. He will come out of it with the proper support. Good luck to you.</p>