<p>Another thought: Would she and another single girl in the group want to swap? I figure the peer might know what’s totally cool and they’d each have fun surprising the other.</p>
<p>Good thought but she might be the only single girl. Not sure. As far as the not having one because it signifies a date and might lead to drama, we will take our chances.</p>
<p>Same here. Kids go in a pack, or with a date or stag. Everyone is invited, and everyone goes.</p>
<p>I got a wrist corsage for D the first year she went without a date. She laughed, took it apart and asked me to pin it in her hair.</p>
<p>ebeee, if there are other girls in your daughter’s group who are going without dates, you might want to give a heads up to the other parents that you are giving a corsage. If “everyone” does it, it becomes sort of a badge of group identity, although some kids are confident enough that they just wouldn’t care if they were the only one with (or without) one. </p>
<p>My daughter went to prom last weekend, and she and her date both decided they didn’t WANT flowers- they are both kind of granola and the thought of cut flowers, uncomfortable pins, decorative ribbons and doodads hanging from clothing/wrists just didn’t fit their vibe. Sigh. I kind of like the tradition of it all… Love the idea of Dad taking care of things.</p>
<p>I’ve also heard many stories this year of girls trading dresses, reusing a last-year dresses, and even redesigning (including tie-dying!!!) dresses. There was also an interesting buzz about who got their dress for the least amount of money! The economy has definitely made it OK in our neck of the woods to talk about a more frugal prom. My daughter’s dress was a hand-me-down, mailed home from her big sister, away in college.</p>
<p>One other thought- we took lots of pictures of our daughter before her date got there, and she is so happy to have these photos- not sure how long this guy will be “in the picture”, so it’s wonderful to have pictures of her looking glamorous. It’s perfectly fine to have lots of solo pictures, date or not.</p>
<p>My “dad” (aka Mom actually did the work) gave me a corsage when I went alone to prom, and I was very grateful. It was sweet, and I still have the dried flowers in my room. </p>
<p>On another note, leis at graduation are very popular is Southern California! Everyone has at least one, and some people have many!</p>
<p>I have bought flowers to put in my daughter’s hair. The florist can put something on a comb with ribbon that complements the dress. She was happy.</p>
<p>My oldest son was asked to go to the prom by a girl - as friends. When he went to her house to pick her up, there were 4 other girls there, all without dates. They carpooled in his car (not that he knew that was going to happen!!), and met up with a bunch of others, with and without dates. Anything goes these days. I did notice that the single girls either wore flowers in their hair or a wrist corsage, so some sort of flowers were definitely present. In hindsight, I remember him telling me that it seemed like less than 20% of the couples at the prom were actually dating.</p>
<p>That is the nicest gesture - as a Dad, I plan to keep that one in mind for the future - I’d love to buy her a corsage…</p>
<p>As for the flower lei - they are reasonably common at graduation here in central California - and I think they are a great idea.</p>
<p>Just a side note – our local supermarket with a floral department does wrist corsages fairly inexpensively. They’re either in the cooler ready to go or the floral staff can create something perfect while you shop. Makes it easy!</p>
<p>Wrist corsage is the way to go, with or without date. I couldn’t figure out what this wrist corsage thing was all about–back in my prom going day, the boy pinned the flower on the girl (yes, we had to have dates) on the shoulder and then the mother would have to rescue it and repin. </p>
<p>Of course, wrist corsages make more sense nowadays because there often isn’t anything to pin a corsage to! >>eyes wide open icon<<</p>
<p>Hooray for the kids who go with a group, date or not!
I spent my prom night bowling with a group of girlfriends because we were all either dating guys who were in college (and couldn’t get home for the weekend), or guys from other high schools and had decided to just hit the first party rather than go to that expense twice.
It would have been more fun to have transposed that group to the main party… but going without a date was taboo back in the 70’s</p>
<p>The group D is planning to go with this year is even talking about getting a bus! (too many for a limo!) She went with the same general group last year…they were the first ones on the dance floor, and the last ones off. She had a wonderful time…who needs a date? </p>
<p>Dragonmom, agreed “back in our day” there’s no way that would have happened. Although I knew my husband back in my sr. year in high school, we didn’t start dating until we went off to (separate) colleges. I will never let him forget how devastated that he invited what’s-her-face instead of me (I was SURE he’d notice that I liked him and ask ME!!!). I went to a movie with another loser friend! I never thought about the flowers thing…that’s a good idea!</p>