<p>I think Soulside’s statement “Most parents I know put their child’s happiness above all else” is very idealistic, but not very realistic. Parents shouldn’t jeopardize their home, retirement and other children’s needs (not wants) so that one child, no matter how beloved and precious, may attend the one special school that they think will lead to happiness. More than one school can meet this child’s pursuit of happiness quest and also allow her mother to have some financial control over her future. Sure, land64shark can call the FA office, but by no means should she begin self-flagellation if the money isn’t there. Make a reasonable inquiry, and then move on.</p>