<p>Reviving this thread to help DD who is on the opposite side of this experience and has called me several times to share her worry. Her ROOMMATE has ADD/ADHD, presumably the inattentive kind, and has exhibited the behavior described up thread: Not getting up by the alarm, skipping class, missing tests, staying up all night, not attending group project meetings, etc. She also doesn’t clean up her food (so it smells) and I hope by now that she has changed her linens at least once. DD really likes the girl and doesn’t want her to flunk out. DD, the old soul, has told her roomie that she needs to get her act together, but I reminded DD that such lectures tend to fall on deaf ears.</p>
<p>The girl seems to do better academically when she takes her meds, but they don’t seem to be the full answer. From overhearing their phone conversations, DD believes the girl’s parents think she is coping better than she is. I don’t think it is good for either girl for DD to be a helicopter roommate as she may just be delaying the roomie’s crash. [Gosh, did DD pick up her nagging habits from moi?] But I think it would be fine for DD to help her roommate navigate the counseling center, tutoring center, etc. at their LAC when and if the roommate is ready wants help and/or moral support.</p>
<p>What do y’all think? DD talked about wanting to do a peer intervention. Since I doubt that substance abuse is the issue here, but rather the challenges of ADHD, to my thinking an intervention would not help. </p>
<p>TIA for your wisdom.</p>