I tell my kids that, 100 years from now, when someone updates our genealogy, they will still be “our children.”
RVM, making this connection is a win, in itself. He’s been doing something very right to get the support.
I tell my kids that, 100 years from now, when someone updates our genealogy, they will still be “our children.”
RVM, making this connection is a win, in itself. He’s been doing something very right to get the support.
Thank you. I have to say - when he initially told me his best chance of getting a football job was through the coaches he has worked for making calls on his behalf - I was skeptical. But he would never have known about this opportunity - let alone be first in line for it - without their help. I hope he has the opportunity a few years down the road to help other recent graduates with their job searches.
Fingers crossed for your son, RVM. I know you’re worried about things, but he’s already accomplished so much - working in his area of choice, saving money and building connections that will help him move forward.
Any update, RVM or busdriver?
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I haven’t read the whole thread, just scanned the first few replies but, IMHO, there is no such thing as a helicopter parent when it comes to job searches or helping kids deal with setbacks especially unexpected ones. As you mentioned, the number of sports management majors in relation to the number of open SM jobs is lopsided in favor of the majors making it hard for anyone to break into the career one wants. It is like film school grads and quality entertainments jobs. When that over supply happens it tends to me one has to accept less than ideal and slog through to earn his/her wings. But there is nothing wrong with that if we are talking about pursuing one’s dreams. You have to do what you have to do.
Maybe he should use his finance degree or maybe he should just take what he can get in the SM field and fight his way to the top. That is difficult to know even if you are on the front lines with him. The entire issue of what career, what major, what job opportunity, etc. etc. is almost unsolvable for control freaks (not saying you are) but if you are you have to learn to breath deeply and let go. Sometimes you just have to let go and let things happen the way they will.
In my opinion, you can and should do whatever you can to help him find a job he wants. There is no such thing as a helicopter parent when it comes to income. Just my $.02.
Thank you for your thoughts. He is supposed to have an interview next week, and will know more then. I am just in “wait and see” mode right now. I know he feeks very strongly that he wants to continue on this path for a career in football operations. Only time will tell. He feels that he should pursue his dream for at least another year, before giving up on it. So be it.
"Any update, RVM or busdriver? "
@jym626, our son did not get any job offers during the last sequence of interviews. Grrr…it sounds like the interviews went well, and he was really expecting something, so we were pretty disappointed for him. However, he has been busy lining up the next group, and is flying to Seattle, then to SF for another round of interviews with companies next week. Fortunately there are many companies hiring in his field, and it doesn’t sound hard to get them to fly you out for an interview. But an offer would be nice!
Good luck!
Thanks, he needs whatever luck he can get! But once again, I’m jinxing it by talking about it, so I’ll just shut up.
Talking about it is good. If we could influence the outcome, good or bad, we would think we parents have more effect than unfortunately we do.
DS didn’t get the job for which he interviewed. Final three, but no cigar. He has a good lead on another job. I am just thrilled that he’s expanding his horizons a little more than he said he would initially.
Hang in there parents! The most stressful time of my life was 1 1/2 years ago when my son moved to a city where his girlfriend lived and had a great job lead. In about a week, the job fell through, he and gf broke up, and housing fell through. We encouraged him to go to this last job interview before giving up. It turned out that luck got him to be at the right place and the right time and got a great job! He needed a lot of support from us during a very dark time. Such great parents you are.
That would be tough, GT! Glad it worked out.
GTalum - wow! Glad you all made it through that.
Just wanted to provide an update - S1 has one offer - it’s a great opportunity in football - but the pay is low. Does have good future potential. And - he is one of 3 final candidates for an upper level position with a struggling football program. Great pay - 2 steps up on the job ladder - but a real challenging situation. But just being considered for this position is pretty amazing.
I’m happy he has an offer and maybe another option as well. I have worked at re-aligning how I look at his job situation. This is his life and I want him to be happy. He wants to work in football - and this will mean frequent job changes and relocations - and I just have to accept that.
So - thanks for the support - looks like we are going to survive!
I was thinking about your son just today!!!
This is great news - huge congrats to him. Options are always a good thing. Wonder what he will do? Keep us updated.
@rockvillemom, it’s hard when the path they choose to take is not the path we’d like to see them on, isn’t it?
If you’re like me, you still feel like you “own” their problems, even though they are “adults.”
Good for him for knowing what he really wants to do.
In some ways, I admire his sense of resolve and knowing who he is and what he wants to do. I also worry about this path and how it will impact his future. The lack of stability would be a huge negative for me. But he feels he can deal with it.
Now we just wait to see if he gets the 2nd offer and then if he does, which one he chooses.
Yay! Congrats to him for the offer and best wishes for the other opportunity. And a pat on the back to you, too.
This is great news! I admire your son for following his passion. My D took a more conventional route and is still questioning what she really wants to be when she grows up. .