Advice for slow and possibly indifferent counselor and teacher?

[poetgrl]

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My kids watch how I “operate” when they are home. They know when I am not around, it would be up to them to follow up. D2 commented on how so many of her friends are behind in their application process. In speaking with GC, she is more suprised when parents are not involved.</p>

<p>I let D2 know what I am doing, so she is also learning what could go wrong and what are her rights as a student and what are GC/teachers responsibilities. When D1 first went off to college it did take her a month or two to adjust being totally responsible for herself, but she quickly got used to it. But what she retained was “never take no for an answer,” and “speak up if you want to get something done.”

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<p>This is interesting. This is how kids learn.</p>

<p>They recently did a study as to why kids from higher socio-economic levels do better in college and afterwards, and a large part of what they found is that the children of upper middle class parents had a sense of their right to be in any office, or how to ask for what they want and need and how to get a response. Their effectiveness, even in getting health care needs met, is much higher just becuase they know how to ask questions and how to ask again. </p>

<p>They are also percieved to be much less pushy during this, even if they are pushing harder, than are those who had not had the examples of their parents. One of the strongest indicators that a child from a lower socio-economic level would succeed in higher education and beyond was the ability to do the same thing and having been taught how by their parents, as well, so that those with strong mothers and fathers, regardless of income, did very well also.</p>

<p>Just an aside.</p>

<p>when I hear people say, “It is the kids job,” I laugh to think of all the parents in our upper class area who would not dream of letting something like this “slide” becuase it is the kids job? What? No wayyyyy.</p>