Their childhood is so short. Let her be a child. I strongly suggest letting her do nothing in her summer after freshman year, if that’s what she wants to do. Your child is going to be who she is.
I thought selective college admission was insanely competitive back in 2014, when I first came here. Well, in the words of Al Jolson (sort of): you ain’t seen nothin’ yet.
I could qualify that in a lengthy essay, but instead, I’ll just advise you for now that your number one priority is to ensure your daughter has a balanced college list based on reality. And the most important school on the list must be a safety or two.
Don’t talk about Stanford and MIT. Don’t make your first college trip Cambridge, Mass. Don’t suggest to her that she needs to do stuff for the sake of getting into a top college.
Always keep the focus on what is actually possible. Anything else is icing on the cake. The goal is college, not a name.