<p>Actressfosho,
I don’t have AlwaysAMom’s back. I don’t care the name of whoever responded to you. I looked at the content of the posts. I cross posted with her in fact and didn’t know she was responding to your post as I was writing mine. I didn’t read her posts as changing her mind at all on cut programs. I believe she is against cut programs and I happen to feel similarly about most cut programs as well. I ONLY read her to say that those she knew who had attended the program had some positive things to relate. That doesn’t mean she would send her kid to this program. Ya know, my D’s best friend goes to CCM and I have heard great things about the program. But my own child opted to NOT apply there for a couple of reasons, one of which was the cut program. So, I can say there are lots of plusses about a program while not supporting the cut policy OR thinking the school is a good fit for what my own child wants. AlwaysAMom never said she “approved of the program” or that she “approved of cuts”. I read NO contradictions at all. She read what she had heard from those who attended and she also pointed out some grads she knew who had worked on Bdway more recently to contrast with what you had written that they were from the age of Methusula. I saw the thrust of AlwaysAMom’s post about AADA as a response to your point that the only successful alums of AADA were from the day of yore. She pointed out a few more recent alums she knew of, that’s all. And said they were happy there and has some good things to say. She wasn’t saying this school is amazing or that her kid would choose it. </p>
<p>Posting contradictions or your points of view is not disrepectful in itself. The tone of the posts ARE. I believe many parents would think that they are not stated courteously. The actual contradictions you bring up, even the cut one, doesn’t even apply to what was posted. I agree with MTMama that one should not bash other programs. There are programs my kid wouldn’t be interested in but others might and these programs might be very good. Each person’s college criteria is different. I think it helps to hear a balanced view. If these folks want to be informative about what they know about a program that may differ than your viewpoint, I’d want to hear it. I don’t like hearing the putting down of programs. I would rather hear someone say they didin’t wish to apply because X, Y, and Z about the program didn’t appeal to them particularly. </p>
<p>You wrote:
“Need I remind you that this is a kids forum? There is a Parents forum if you want to be ageist.”</p>
<p>Let me remind YOU that this is NOT a kids’ forum. To the contrary, the MT forum and actually ALl the forums on CC are open to both parents and students. The Parents’ Forum is also open to students though the majority who hang out there are parents, myself included. THIS particular forum has students, parents, coaches, college personnel and college counselors on it. If anything, there are almost more adults than kids on it but all are welcomed. But it is SURELY not a kids’ forum. Please do not condescendingly remind me who the forum is for. I have been on CC’s forums for FOUR years, way longer than you and I actually WORK for College Confidential and so I know a thing or two as to who these forums are for. As a 49 year old parent and educator who has taught both graduate school and undergraduate school, I also know that I expect respect when students talk to adults. Differences of opinions are VERY welcome. It is HOW they are made. Think about it. I’d also review the Terms of Service regarding posting with courtesy. Posts should NOT be about other posters themselves but just about ideas or opinions. I think it ought to get back on topic.</p>
<p>By the way, I have no idea what you mean by a program “she approves of.” In my own case, I don’t approve or disapprove of any programs. I look for fit of a program to a student and finding a good match. I work with many students and find schools that match their personal criteria, as well as qualifications. I don’t have an approved list. There are schools I might recommend for a student that my own kid would never have applied to but I think it may be a good option for that particular student. </p>
<p>I never did comment on the topic of this thread. I’ll make one quick point about it though. I believe each student appllying to college should establish a set of criteria/preferences she wants in a school and then find schools that match that criteria (and of course determine their chances for admissions in terms of reach, match, safety). For SOME kids, ONE criteria may be the level of challenge. This is not the same as saying one wants an “elite” school due to prestige. To the contrary, one may want a very selective school because the level of challenge of the work is the right fit for them. Both my kids wanted schools that were selective academically because they would not be content with work that was not challenging for their level. This is sorta like how they preferred to take the hardest classes in HS as these were the right level of challenge for them. PART of this criteria involves the peers in class or at the school. For some students, they find it important to be with others who have skills, talents, and similar motivations. That is part of the learning environment that they crave and flourish best in. So, for some students, it IS important to them that the peer group in the school/program will be of similar level or even higher level so as to challenge them sufficiently. In that respect, certain types of students may be attracted to highly selective top programs/colleges as there is a “fit” in this way. This may mean academically or artistically.</p>