Nonetheless, that 100k income most often yields a much higher family contribution. Over time, many posters at roughly that income level have reported higher actual costs via need based aid.
I agree with others, you’ll benefit in the long run from broadening your search, including colleges that are more affordable safeties, from the get-go. With the most- or highly-competitive colleges, nothing is assured, it’s important to adopt the right strategy. That’s less about personal wants (weather and so on) and more about ultimately gaining the right education leading to the right future. And not in massive debt, you or your family. As said, that can be accomplished in so many places, at so many good engineering programs.