<p>See, we DO care! :D</p>
<p>Our neighbor manufactures 40% of the lower end and median price prom/quincenaria (? spelling)/special occasion /Bat Mitzvah dresses in the United States. We’ve seen the line and this is NOT pushing the limits in any way. Neighbors are quite conscience of regional differences in acceptability. The local stores buy what will sell in their area. Yes, a girl should know her body. Yes, she (or her parents) should assist her in finding the most flattering style for her. But that being said, there is nothing wrong with the dress or the girl wearing it. Perhaps not the best choice, but she picked it/her parents ok’d it. Paddling? Sick.</p>
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<p>No kidding. Why, oh why, do states that already have reputations of being backwater continue to do these things?? </p>
<p>Paddling? A teenager? Un-fricking-believable.</p>
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<p>That’s a very good point, but I doubt that any type of clothes can really be responsible for teenagers having sex. It’s not like they wouldn’t think about it if they couldn’t see each other, you know.</p>
<p>mom2–realize you are kidding, but I have trouble with your “I’d be a walking felony” comment… imho it reinforces that if a girl shows cleavage or looks seductive, she is responsible for bad behavior. </p>
<p>the reality is these are young adults by the time they are attending senior prom, most are already 18. they are hoping to look well, grown up. I wonder if this young woman had a different figure, if her dress would still have failed dress code. she should not be penalized for the shape of her body nor made to feel ashamed for having what is seen as a sexual look. </p>
<p>the fact that the principal, or whoever is speaking on the video, seems to support the paddling by thinking it helps with kids’ “bad behavior” is twisting things a bit. how he gets to think paddling isn’t bad behavior for adults esp with young women is beyond me.</p>
<p>The outrage went all the way up to US Presidential diplomatic intervention (only partially successful) when Singapore said it was going to beat an American boy who had vandalized a car.</p>
<p>Singapore was involved in this too? Is this some kind of international ring of perversion?</p>
<p>Singapore was involved in this too? Is this some kind of international ring of perversion?</p>
<p>You do not even want to go there.</p>
<p>[Human</a> trafficking in Singapore -](<a href=“http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_trafficking_in_Singapore]Human”>Human trafficking in Singapore - Wikipedia)</p>
<p>I think that the dress looked perfectly acceptable. Maybe it was a little too short, but the school could have somebody at the entrance to the prom checking for dress code violations and denied entry to the students until they satisfied the dress code. The sweatshirt/sweatpants idea is also a good one. While a bit too frilly for everyday wear, I’m sure the dress would be acceptable at the University of Alabama on any day of the week. I really don’t see the point of restrictive dress codes during school time or a dress code for a prom that would not allow the dress and is concerned with people wearing gender-specific clothing. It is an event for the students, not the principal.</p>
<p>The fact that paddling is still legal in some states amazes me. It comes as a surprise to us who move from states where it is banned and hear how people are paddled for things that are not an issue that would require a day’s worth of suspension at most. The whole idea of paddling seems better suited to porn than punishment for any person, no matter what their age. I’d be ashamed to have the ability to sentence a child to any sort of corporal punishment, be it a teacher, principal, or other administrator.</p>
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<p>And parents can say “no” that neckline plunges too much on you. That dress is too tight. That dress is too short yada yada yada. Parents can say “no”…parents choose NOT to say no. Clearly a young girl showing her “stuff” IS exactly making a statement. Nothing else about it. It is not done out of innocence… women/girls know exactly what they are doing. Is it an impowering feeling. Absolutely. Any women knows that. It isn’t about anything else. This is about young girls…not mature women. Sorry. Not appropriate for high school.</p>
<p>momofthreeboys,
are you looking at the paris hilton dress at the top of the linked article or the prom dress that got the girl in trouble at the bottom of the page?</p>
<p>you are entitled to your opinion about what look is appropriate…and I have given my input to my d which she typically takes…</p>
<p>however your comment about being a walking felony really puts much too much onus on a girl for a boy’s behavior.</p>
<p>and no this is not about young girls, it is about young women…</p>
<p>Nothing else about it. It is not done out of innocence…</p>
<p>I would beg to differ.</p>
<p>When I was in high school, I tried to wear what I liked. It was one of the few things I had any control over.
I wore lots of tee shirts because I have short arms and blouses were too big. If one of my favorites shrunk ( as things often did & because I was so skinny I usually wanted it to shrink), I wore it anyway.
I didn’t wear suits to school like my sister did- 
but I wore sundresses in the summer just like my friends and I liked the wrap tops that were popular, because I could at least adjust them to fit- It didn’t even occur to me that I should be evaluating what others would think of it.</p>
<p>I was also really naive- once when I was over at a friends ( wearing my favorite wrap top and jeans), her older brother asked me if I (* slang for sex that I had never even heard of and didn’t know what it meant)*. I knew enough to say no, but I really didn’t know why he would have asked me something like that, except that maybe he didn’t know I was a friend of his sister’s.</p>
<p>Unless I am actually obscene, why should I change what I like to wear, just because some male can’t behave respectfully?
If I dressed like a Catholic school girl it wouldn’t matter, I think there is a whole subgroup who likes that sort of thing as well.</p>
<p>My younger daughter and I . also have a tactile awareness problem to deal with.
I remember having to take off undershirts, socks and slips after my mom left for work, and before I left for school, because I couldn’t stand it.
I go barefoot most of the time- & I would run around naked if it was warm enough and I wouldn’t get any dangly bits caught in the pruners.
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<p>I think momofthreeboys was looking at the Paris Hilton photo. My first reaction when I opened the link was, “Whoa! Someone clearly invested in serious plastic surgery here! That is indeed a very inapropriate dress, perhaps a size or two too small ?” I had to laugh at myself when I realized that was NOT the dress in question.</p>
<p>The dress looks like an appropriate prom-type dress – just happens to be on a heavy-set, busty young lady. I wouldn’t want my daughter wearing that dress if that were her figure, but that’s just because it’s not flattering, IMO.</p>
<p>OK, so I’m not the only one who looked at the wrong photo!</p>
<p>I don’t care for the cleavage showing these days, but the young lady (not Paris!) looked fine and wasn’t out of line by most teen standards.</p>
<p>The “paddling” thing is just weird.</p>
<p>^^ I know- when I first looked at that picture I thought * maybe all bleached blondes with enhanced boobs do look alike*- that girl looks vaguely like Paris Hilton.
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<p>It was silly to put that picture there in that article. If I were doing the layout I would probably delete it or juxtapose it with the picture of the actual girl from the main article, with captions.</p>
<p>^ Agreed. The juxtaposing world be interesting. Can the two look in less alike?</p>
<p>The Paris Hilton dress I wouldn’t let my daughter wear. The prom dress I would let my daughter wear. Although I don’t really love the dress I don’t find it too revealing or obscene. It seems like standard prom wear. I got the impression that some posters were looking at the “wrong” dress.</p>